20 years in, at a crossroads
2024.11.25 12:35 the_fartface 20 years in, at a crossroads
I had a very emotional weekend. My wife is on the verge of leaving me and wanted to have long discussions. We’re in this weird space where we’ve built up some resentments over the past twenty years. I’ve been in therapy for about three years and work on things very consistently. My anxiety can get really bad when we start talking about what we should do but I’m working hard to keep from panicking and have the discussions.
It basically comes down to a dead bedroom, never being aligned about having kids, losing a shared future vision, and feeling disconnected. I’ve tried working on myself, talking about my needs more, and having real conversations and trying to connect with her. This all sounds silly because there’s just so many walls up. My wife is on eggshells with me and grey rocks me until it comes out in this big wave like this weekend. She’ll say she wants couples therapy and I’m in agreement and that I’m here to work on things and I’m not running away.
She’s a really great person, we’ve gone through a lot in our marriage (parental deaths, big moves, illnesses). The first half of our marriage, she was very dependent on me for all of her needs. She asks me now if I can forgive her and she wishes she was more mature when we got married. I don’t resent her for any of that, we were just two kids doing what we knew how. I was a born over-functioner from a family system that I wasn’t loved unless I behaved that way.
She tends to be really closed off and I used to push to get her to open up to me and I know now that wasn’t my responsibility. But I grew resentful as time went on knowing that it’s very one-sided when I’m the only one willing to share and be vulnerable. When she’s talking to me this weekend, it feels like the first time she’s able to just be open with me and it makes me happy.
But I had a bad dream last night, probably due to all of these stressful conversations this weekend, and I feel totally overwhelmed and keep weeping. She told me I’m the perfect man, that I’m one in a million and she’ll never find someone like me. I’m not that great. I may always try my hardest but I’m a mess and have messy feelings and am very emotional.
It feels like we’re on the precipice of getting a divorce. I can’t get over feeling like I missed out on not having our own family and seeing a very lonely future. She wants to feel more affection and have her partner feel excited to spend time together. It makes me feel like a total failure. I don’t know what else to do. I know through therapy to not catastrophize and that neither of us are bad people. I’m just so sad and so lost. It doesn’t feel like there’s any positive resolutions.
Sorry for the messiness of this post, I don’t know how to really summarize 20 years and how we ended up here.
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- Better bases for gloves, boots and helmet
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My current job is not that stressful. I can still go to toilet anytime I want, I can even eat snacks, bread, make a coffee while I'm not busy. There's a lot of freedom while working this job.
I've read from this sub that there's a lot of restriction during working hours. I mean restriction in terms of going to restroom, taking your short break and others. Other than that, there are times you have to pick up call nonstop.
I'm thinking about finding more money to support myself, but on the same time, I don't want to sacrifice my freedom of working. I don't want to feel restricted and feels like I'm a robot instead of a human.
Is it worth to apply for Call Centre job or I should stick to my current job? Or should I apply for other job?
Thank you :)
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For context, I currently play drukhari, Orks and GSC, and am wanting my next army to offer an alternative play style to what I'm used to.
What do you guys enjoy about playing sisters? Would you say that their playstyle is different to the factions I already play? I'm actually yet to play against them as none of my friends play them.
Thanks in advance for your input :)
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2024.11.25 12:35 Correct_Structure_51 Kamsport i Aalborg
Hej alle. Jeg leder efter et sted i Aalborg eller omegn, hvor man kan dyrke kampsport på en måde, der virkelig presser ens grænser – både fysisk og mentalt. Jeg søger ikke noget fancy eller poleret, men et råt og ærligt sted, hvor fokus er på disciplin og hård træning. Et sted, hvor man bliver udfordret og skubbet ud af sin komfortzone, og hvor man lærer af sine fejl.
Kender nogen et sted, der passer til den beskrivelse? Gerne noget Muay Thai eller Boksning
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Hi all. FTM. Baby is just over a year. We introduced whole milk about two weeks ago. Prior to this, baby was exclusively breastfed and had no issues with that. He’s typically a great eater.
Since introducing whole milk, his poos have been sometimes softer and sometimes lighter in color. He also isn’t eating as much food but not sure if maybe he’s also entering a picky eating phase?
My husband is lactose intolerant. But we never had any issues with breastfed milk. Any ideas if there’s an intolerance here or maybe baby just needs to get used to whole milk?
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2024.11.25 12:35 HiphopMeNow Recommend your fave Beeleafer strains for night time sleep/relaxation, and for day time energy/mood?
I'm looking to order to UK, they're one of few places that ship here, and local stock is of questionable quality and price.
But I'm very overwhelmed by choice of strains, there are more than few dozen indoors, and then outdoors.
I need couple strains to start off, that worked best for you, had no negative impacts on mood or anxiety, and helped with sleep/relaxation for night time strains, and energy/mood for day time strains.
I've previously tried flow gardens Paradise OG for sleep, and Orange Glaze or Grapefruit for energy, that worked well for me.
Can you recommend something in that direction? Or your personal favourites with strongest effects?
Want to make sure I try 3-4 strains with best feedback for my best chances of finding something that works for me, else I might not order again if I try 4 random ones that sound nice too and don't have much of an effect.
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Im just gonna get into it .so i know this guy from middle school our last year in middle school he confessed his love for me but i rejected him (because i was too young) years later we were in different schools and he again reached out and asked if we could be in a relationship but again i said no for many reasons.now we’re in college he texted me a few days ago and literally just asked if he could be my boyfriend and i said well we should hang out sometime and talk face to face to get to know each other he said ok then the day that we supposed to meet up he didn’t had time💀he said he was with his friends then he said tomorrow i will wait for you until your classes finish and we can hangout and talk tomorrow came (today) i called him and we were supposed to meet up he said he went home 💀and no more explanation and i just said oh okay… He texted me again now what am i supposed to say? Why are guys like this ??🥲 And we have talked before face to face i don’t think he’s shy but idk why he does that (Sorry for my bad English)
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2024.11.25 12:35 cascadingtundra Could Hilary Swank be playing...?
Could Hilary be playing an adult version of Melissa? Another survivor from the plane crash?
I feel as though they have very similar facial features and bone structure, but the eyes are throwing me off a little, but that hasn't stopped the show before! (Tai, for example)
Why else would the character she's playing be such a mystery? And she's a big name. You would think she wouldn't take on a small role in the show, surely? But then Elijah Wood is also a pretty big name (not as big as Hilary though, I'd argue) and he's playing Walter...
The upcoming installment will feature new characters played by Joel McHale and Hilary Swank, with the latter appearing in an undisclosed recurring role.https://screenrant.com/yellowjackets-bonus-episode-update-status/
Agree or disagree, what are your theories about Hilary's character in the upcoming season?
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2024.11.25 12:35 Few-Witness1985 Google drops new Wear OS 5.1 with Android 15 perks
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2024.11.25 12:35 FacF Hoy en dia conocer a alguien es demasiado dificil
Hago este descargo basado en una experiencia muy reciente
Siento que las cosas lindas que te dicen cuando estas conociendo a alguien, la conexion, la química, los gustos en comun, lo buenas que pueden ser las charlas y demas cosas no tienen valor absoluto
Podes estar hablando con alguien de lo mas bien, verte en persona y de la nada .. ghosteo
En mi caso se me hace dificil conocer a alguien por que al tener muchas cosas en comun, y una linda charla pues me termino ilusionando demasiado rapido para mi gusto, todo para ser ghosteado de la nada
Y soy consciente de que en cualquier momento de la charla puedo ser ghosteado, pero aun asi cuando finalmente pasa lo sufro mucho, se que es algo que deberia cambiar, no tomarmelo tan mal, pero se me hace imposible
Es algo que me pone demasiado nervioso, ando alguna parte del tiempo pensando si me gostheara, luego si me gostheara despues de la cita etc. Me pongo demasiado ansioso y no me gusta
Recientemente me paso, empeze a hablar con alguien por IG, senti conexion, quimica, teniamos casi el mismo humor, pues varias cosas en común, nos terminamos viendo una vez por que la cosa iba muy bien, la cita salio muy bien, la pasamos bien los 2
Pero bueno, luego de eso hablamos un poco, otro poco hasta el dia siguiente hasta que me clavo el visto, hoy le hable para felicitarla por su cumpleaños y fue ahi cuando me bloqueo de todos lados, me dio demasiada bronca, me parecio una actitud totalmente de mierda
Asi que por el momento dejare de buscar conocer gente, es algo que me pone bastante nervioso la verdad
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2024.11.25 12:35 Hengrist somewhere in the lore explains these things?
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