I hate the Holidays
2024.11.25 14:50 Goodtogo_5656 I hate the Holidays
I think I would characterize my HSP, as genuinely anxious in most social situations. LIke skin crawling, I have to get out of here, dont' stand near me, ....anxious. If you look at me, and ask me a question and I don't know you, I could freeze like a deer in the headlights. As my brain scrambles to figure out how much of a threat you are. Loud noises sets me off-so crowds, shoving and pushing isn't the best feeling, people laughing raucous roaring laughter-grates on my nerves, kids screaming out of Joy or misery-bad either way. I get it, its not their fault, they're just kids. But the adults (?).....should know better.
I was attempting to shop, and I felt like I was being tortured, so I had to leave. I used to love shopping, loooove it. Now, since I've been more in touch with my sensitivity, my feelings, not numbing myself, or shifting into some dysregulated dissociative state, I simply can't override my entire CNS. I feel like I"m being assaulted with noise, crowds, other people who are dysregulated, pushy sales people. This constant barage of commercials to buy, buy, buy, do this, bake this, eat this, screaming kids who are just tired and chances are also hsp and trying to find a way out that hell....and God forbid you're an HSP who just wants to stay home , maybe not cook a 8 course meal , or go into debt buying the perfect present or else you're a horrible person. Now, you're a party pooper, a real downer, you're "No fun".
I wish there was a way to have my adult me handle some of the Holiday cheer for the things I'd like to do, , while allowing my hsp self that just wants to feel calmer to stay home.? It's the crowds , that's the real issue. Just the onslaught of lines, traffic, and voices to my HSP ear, might as well be screaming in my face. Maybe earplugs? I want to be part of the festivities, I just don't want to have people pushing me, shoving past me with their bags, or screaming in my ear, or judging my depressed overwhelmed face because -No-, I"m not having a good time-stop judging me.
One Thanksgiving week, I went to the grocery store, and as I was walking in, a woman was walking out- her cart overflowing with groceries, and she did not look happy. In fact I don't think I've seen less Joy on a persons face, at apparently the thought of having to turn all that food into some miraculous Thanksgiving dinner. She looked......burdened. Her face read , "god save me from this hell".
So , I need to sit down and really think about what works for me. What I can manage, so that I"m not robbing myself of the Holiday I can have. Because I am not going to succumb to the pressure of "DO THE HOLIDAYS LIKE THIS". ...or you're just a party pooper, loser. According to the media I"m supposed to whip up a Epicurean Martha Stuart dinner, then get in my brand new family SUV, with the Golden retriever, or cattle dog, and drive to Aspen to ski ...while feeding Caribou, sipping gourmet hot chocolate, and looking like a super model/ski bunny/Holiday princess, later have hot sex with my model /lumberjack....boyfriend...in front of a blazing fire.
Reality; I'm in my sweats, maybe my hair is clean(?), the thought of leaving the house to deal with that insanity, on top of regular overwhelming life stuff that still needs to be done, and the shame of being HSP and not "Yippee , par-taaay!" ......is just depressing. I know there has to be a way around this, without giving up entirely on the holidays.
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2024.11.25 14:50 Iampoorghini Tropical vacation spots are overrated
I’m from Chicago and most of my friends and pretty much everyone I’ve talked to, think a vacation has to be somewhere warm. They’re all about Mexico, the DR, the Bahamas, etc. But honestly, what do you even do there? Sit on a beach, sip alcohol, and call it a vacation? At a resort where you don’t even experience the real local culture or favorite spots?
I’m heading to London next month, and everyone’s acting weird because it’s cold. So what? Exploring architecture, soaking in the culture, and finding local gems sounds way more appealing than lounging on a beach with a piña colada just to post on social media. Who cares if it’s cold? Layer up and enjoy the experience!
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2024.11.25 14:50 Legitimate_Onion_319 Are hotels really fully booked over New Year?
Hi,
I'm coming to Hua Hin end of December and have only booked 3 nights in a hotel up to New Years Eve. It's been many years since I've been to Thailand, I used to just turn up and book a hotel on arrival rather than pre-book.
Many of the travel sites in the UK are showing limited availability (eg only 1 room left) from 1st Jan onwards in Hua Hin; half of me thinks this is mostly marketing ploy to get people to book.
Is it likely going to be an issue finding other hotel accommodation or is there plenty of options upon arrival?
Thanks, L
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