2024.11.26 04:40 sleepybutfun The question still remains…WHO THE FUCK IS MARTIN
and how/why did the worms kill ma boi smiley 🙃
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2024.11.26 04:40 Macman865 A Lesson in Emotional Maturity: How I (27M) Destroyed My LDR of 4 Years
My partner (29F) and I met on Reddit October 2020, and from the very beginning I knew she was a very special girl. We had aligning values, morals, interests, hobbies, humor, and conversation was effortless. I fell in love with her immediately, and from then on we spoke nearly every day for 4 years.
We called nearly every day, watched movies together, ate together, played video games together, shared intimate moments and quickly started to build a strong bond. I especially cherish the small act of talking about each other's days and sharing life info with on another. Early on however, I was already neglecting her without fully realizing it. For the first 2 years of contact, I danced around the conversation of "what are we" and although deep in my feelings I knew I loved her dearly, I was too afraid to admit it. Too afraid she may not reciprocate my feelings and she'd leave me. So she remained "just a friend" for years, but our level of intimacy made it clear that she was far more than just a friend and didn't deserve to be relegated as such. Mistake #1.
In year 3, we finally had the conversation of taking the LDR seriously, admitting our feelings towards one another, and saying what we wanted/expected out of a committed LDR. She clearly communicated what she was expecting now that things were serious (i.e. more affirmations of love and affection, sending of gifts, ect) and although verbally I agreed, for the entirety of year 3 I did very little to show it. I bought her gifts and meant to ship them, but would be stopped by enormous shipping costs and logistics of sending things to her country. I would sometimes inadvertently shut down her requests for affection, calling them cringe or questioning how they'd be possible long distance. I let little obstacles stop me from following though and neglected to ever correct, and would become uncomfortable with certain ways of showing love and affection, which I also neglected to investigate and correct. Mistake #2.
At the end of year 3 we made plans to finally close the gap, for me to go see her in person for the first time. International flight, 20+ hours of travel time. It was a big deal, and I was so excited. However, before the trip she let me know that she was unsatisfied with the fact not much had changed from the time we were casual friends until now, and she was upset that I was struggling to keep up on the little things. I forgot her birthday, I sent a late gift for valentine's day, constantly misremembered or forgot details of things she said to me. I apologized and shrugged it off by blaming my busy schedule, the distance, and huge time difference. I honestly believed that our busy lives and the fact that we were halfway around the world from one another was 100% to blame, but it wasn't. Mistake #3.
Earlier this year in year 4, the trip happened and went off without a hitch. The trip was pure magic, and it was the happiest week of my life that I still think about every day. During my visit to her, she asked me "What's gonna change" in regards to our relationship because she still felt like things were too casual and not serious enough. After spending lots of time and effort on getting a passport and flying out to see her, I took personal offense to that and began seeing every complaint she made about our relationship as an attack. I honestly felt I was being serious and dedicated, and as far as I was concerned everything was perfectly fine! The time immediately following the trip was turbulent and difficult. Every week for months there were lots of calls that resulted in disagreements and tears. She then hit me with the bombshell that she was incredibly unhappy in the relationship and wanted to go separate ways.
We stayed together a few more months to try and work things out but to no avail. Early October I asked to go no contact to give each other space to heal and come back later to talk. We we're no contact for almost 2 months, and in that time I've started 1 hour therapy sessions every week with a great therapist that has me hard at work figuring out why I do the things I do. I've learned I have an anxious avoidant attachment style, and have a deep rooted fear of being emotionally vulnerable in an intimate setting for fear of being ridiculed or abandoned. My childhood was not full of mushy gushy moments, and my parents are the type to make fun of people expressing their emotions, myself included. Through lots of hard work, I learned that this had warped my ability to love others and let myself be loved, and has degraded all my personal relationships in a deep way, including my LDR. Just in the 2 months since I've started therapy, I can now catch unhealthy behavior as it happens and try and replace it with a healthier one, which has already improved my personal relationships with my friends in a very noticeable way. It's still a struggle sometimes, but nowadays don't feel as afraid to bare my soul and be emotionally vulnerable anymore! I asked my GF to break the silence and have a talk.
Well, my GF and I finally had the talk earlier today, and she's now afraid of me. Years and years of small acts of neglect have added up to make her anxious of seeing my name pop up on a notification on her phone. Years of dismissals and broken promises have conditioned her always expect disappointment. She had to hide her true feelings and not speak her mind in order for the relationship to function, which has left her exhausted and weak. All of this, all of my emotional unavailability, based on some unfounded irrational fear that if I poured my heart out to her she'd think I was weak and leave me? This is so stupid in hindsight. My own insecurities have sabotaged what might be one of the few chances at a fulfilling romance and love I'll ever have in life. It's over now. She admitted she's happier without me and doesn't want contact with me while she's still healing.
I apologized profusely and tried to get her to reconsider, to think of a way this could work. She unfortunately is facing other mental health problems unrelated to our LDR, and said she needed to find peace and figure out her own self worth and how to want to live life again. Only then would she think about having a relationship. We talked about the idea of regular snail mail instead of online communication as we worked on ourselves and eventually reconnected in the future, which we both agreed could be good. Bottom line is we both still love each other deeply, but whereas I think we can rebuild our relationship while also working on ourselves, she does not. She no longer trusts my word and doesn't want to spend the energy necessary to potentially put up with my emotional immaturity again. She needed to leave for work and our call ended without a solid plan. I feel as though that's it. 4 years of love and affection, over in an instant.
To all reading, don't take the ones you love for granted. Don't avoid working on yourself and asking difficult questions just because you're afraid of the answer. Don't be afraid of putting in effort and showing you care. Don't do what I did. Because of my aforementioned mistakes, I lost the love of my life in the most avoidable way possible, and now I'm here to face the consequences and pick up what remains of my broken heart. If you haven't already today, tell your partner you love them dearly. Message your friend or parent and let them know how important they are to you. Life is short and people don't stay in your life forever. Choose love.
Thank you for reading.
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2024.11.26 04:40 rollingques 20m beta looking to talk about how I got $a’d by an older man
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2024.11.26 04:40 Habrecht [GT2 RS] I spotted earlier today.
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2024.11.26 04:40 FizzyPizzel What was your No. 1 most listened to KKB track this year?
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2024.11.26 04:40 TheNippleNugget What's the easiest way to get back into this game?
Hello all! So I played a lot from like season 3 (Zac and Lissandra were the newest champs when I first started) until like Camille. I played it religiously and my college grades kind of showed that lol. I was very much a Sion main because he goes smash and I like to smash stuff.
Anyways I kind of want to get back into it due to Arcane related reasons. I flirted with it a time or two since then but was completely overwhelmed! New items, jungle stuff, dragons, and so on and so forth. It's an entirely different game from when I played.
Rant aside, are there any resources ya'll recommend to help ease me into the game again? Thank ya'll so much <3
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2024.11.26 04:40 0mi_plays Hakone finally arrived!
Was a fun first drive home! https://preview.redd.it/arumpb0cd63e1.jpg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=6564cf986fdfba7d77d9f3c6cf0ee6621af8aa09 Better pictures soon. Down to answer questions. submitted by 0mi_plays to GR86 [link] [comments] |
2024.11.26 04:40 Hamburgo [South Australia] Does a victims of crime payout affect a JobSeeker income?
Asking for a friend! Trigger warning: csa mention.
She’s receiving a Victims of Crime payout for a CSA case. Everything we have googled comes up with different things and we are unsure. The amount is $32,000 in total and $10,000 of that is for lost wages.
She doesn’t work and should really be on DSP imo but hey Centrelink make it hard, our friend with terminal brain cancer has been denied disability!
So basically if it affects her payments it encourages her to blow it all on a holiday/carandom shit instead of setting up an account and managing it because she would rather stay on her payment than go through the circus ring of trying to get back on after stretching the money out.
Thanks in advance to those who can answer I asked her if I could post on Reddit for her!!
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2024.11.26 04:40 Tuffted_Mouse Completing JD at say an institution such as U of Winnipeg or U of Sask
I will keep this as concise as possible: I am wondering about job prospects for those that complete the JD at an institution such as those listed in the title (they are typically easier to admit to). I understand that job prospects are always grim at first in any profession, however, I just want to know that I could get a gig at a firm atleast close to home in Alberta.
I am not going into this for the chase of money or a glamorous life- this is something that I have thought about pursuing for a long time and it is an existential journey more than anything. I hope to make more income than I make now as a trucker- for the good of my children- but I hope that my job prospects are somewhat positive if I completed the program at one of these "lower bar" institutions.
Bless
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2024.11.26 04:40 SessionTall5573 lf a good ledg or mythic trait reaper
trading abyssal voided g5 for a good trait reaper
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2024.11.26 04:40 ndtconsult Knee Replacement in Bangkok
Anyone have actual experience getting knee replacement surgery in Bangkok. My friend needs to have it done real soon. Looking for hospital / surgeon recommendations from folks who've actually been through it...
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2024.11.26 04:40 BroMandi [eBay] 【Refurbished】Creality K1C 3D Printer 600mm/s High Speed Dual Fans | eBay $282.03 [Deal Price: $282.03]
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2024.11.26 04:40 Icy_Grapefruit1526 Should i accept
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2024.11.26 04:40 Evillilith Help me find this move
It’s about a game/vr. The guy deleted his games because he only did it for fun and was off to military but when he came back his father was bankrupt and he had to reinstall the game to earn money. I saw this on yt and i cant find it anymore😭
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2024.11.26 04:40 Hot_Requirement7589 GappyV hitting a World Record for getting "woke" in 10 video games.
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2024.11.26 04:40 cececescaaa ustet provincial testing center
hello po, di na po ba pwede mag take ulit sa provincial testing center? as in isang araw lang ba talaga siya? na miss ko kasi yung last exam pero di pa naman ako nakapag bayad. planning na magtake na lang this dec if di na pwede sa provincial testing center.
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2024.11.26 04:40 Acrobatic_Design_928 Social Media (Twitter) Analysis
Does anyone have any tips for how to go about analysing the general performance of a twitter account but at a level deeper than just number of retweets etc. For example who likes and retweets the account the most, are there any interactions/connections between followers, is there any bot activity etc. So this is for OSINT purposes but I can imagine all of my questions have a commercial application too, if someone wanted to know how well a twitter account is performing and the extent and form of engagement with that account.
Anyway if anyone has any recommended tools - especially if free unless there is a best-in-class example - id appreciate any guidance.
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2024.11.26 04:40 Own-Atmosphere-1462 Emergency
What would you do if you were told you couldn't leave work (because your boss said no) but your dad was admitted to the hospital????!!!
I told my boss that my dad was just admitted to the hospital and there was a chance I'd have to go there if things got worse. My boss told me no, I would not be able to leave because we were short staffed.
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2024.11.26 04:40 SeriousBike3429 New monitor
Upgraded today to a hp omen transcend 32 oled monitor. Loving it so far!! Updated the firmware to latest also. submitted by SeriousBike3429 to OLED_Gaming [link] [comments] |
2024.11.26 04:40 ColdEstablishment558 LIAM LIVINGSTONE MADNESS...!!!
50* (15) with 3 fours and 5 sixes in the Abu Dhabi T10 League. submitted by ColdEstablishment558 to RCB [link] [comments] |
2024.11.26 04:40 inventeer_ How much would you sell these for?
Hey guys havent made a knife in over a year so im a little rusty. How much do you think i could for them. The longer one is 15n20 and the shorter is 1084. The handles are ironbark and spalted sassafras. Any feedback on improvements to make them more valuable would be appreciated too. Thanks submitted by inventeer_ to knifemaking [link] [comments] |
2024.11.26 04:40 mad-cow-moo Ex never told me
I don’t know if this has happened to people before but here’s my story. I just need to share and get it off my chest. Met my now ex close to two years ago. She was amazing. We hit it off. Everything was great. Well things happened between us and we split. After the split i was told by someone that she had herpes. Next day went and got tested 2 days later received positive test results for HSV 1/2. She never admitted when i asked her why she didn’t tell me. Only thing she would say is she told me and i forgot and that she hasnt had an outbreak since 2016 so it was all fine. Obviously not I tried talking to her about it and there was no response or care in the world from her.
Have other people experienced this kind of betrayal? I want to have future relationships and never want to put someone in the same situation i have been put in. But im now reading about the spread of this virus / the known stigma / and the feelings of being ashamed or dirty. This was something i never thought id experience. I dont know how to navigate it all.
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2024.11.26 04:40 Bruhidontknowwhy How a Mission Changes You
As part of deconstructing, I’m curious to hear how being a missionary changed you; for the better and/or for the worst. Trying to take an honest look at the whole situation and understand what happens to people who serve missions.
I’ll start with one of each
Positive: Pushed me out of my comfort zone. This was certainly painful, but it made me less afraid of making big steps like moving across the world to Japan solo (I didn’t serve there). There are certainly better ways I could have achieved that result, but that was just how it ended up working for me by nature of growing up as a “good mormon boy”.
Negative: My mission made me extremely paranoid of getting on God’s bad side. Being told that so much is sleeping in damns people to hell…that really eats at you. It’s hard to shift from feeling like you’re being watched to the reality of: if a creator exists, I’m probably dead last on the list of cosmic priorities. It’s taken me a decade to shake this mindset, and even then I’m still not all the way there.
Anything you all have to say is welcome. You can also talk about changes you witnessed in other people.
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2024.11.26 04:40 distorted_face96 Holidays without my mom
Lost my mom last October, and I was just still in shock/ a fog for the holidays that followed. Now that a little time has passed I find this holiday season to feel so heavy and dark. Ill be seeing my small family. Now smaller. Seeing my moms parents. My grandma gets a cloud over her face some times. She lost her baby. My aunt, lost her little sister, and still rallies and tends to all the cooking. I wish my mom could be with us. Eating good food, laughing. Listening to the same stories her dad always tells, and rolling her eyes to me. I miss my mom all the time. I miss her even more now. A year and change and some days I still cant believe shes gone.
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2024.11.26 04:40 No_Cause7472 Trade ✨
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