Need some advice from fellow South Africans
2024.11.28 14:50 Extreme-Cable-5879 Need some advice from fellow South Africans
I'm sick to my stomach from guilt, and I don't know what I should do. I hope I can share this and ask for advice
So last week Tuesday, I 19M broke up with my 19F girlfriend of 6 months It's been my first relationship I've ever had since I was a little kid.
I can't even recall the exact reason why I decided to break up with her on that day, and now I'm regretting what I've done.
We've tried no contact, but we physically can't stop texting each other like we do everyday.
We both agreed that if we'd get back together then we'll do it better this time, not keeping anything to ourselves and letting it bottle up Cause that's the main reason why my parents tell me to leave her alone I feel so fucking stupid right now thinking back about everything.
Every, single, time, that something made her upset, she'd tell me about it and then I'd listen to her, and then I'd try my best to not ever do it again.
But every single time something upset me, I'd always keep it to myself and never tell her anything about what's upsetting me. Then I'd look mad and upset at home and then I'd tell my mother oh this and this and this is upsetting me, but I never told my girlfriend.
I really, really still love this girl, I love her for who she is, but my parents dislike her for all the times that I've been upset because of her and us both arguing or being mad or the stupidest of reasons. I feel ashamed because I've only ever told them how upset I am or how she doesn't listen or that she keeps arguing about the smallest things, when I was the one who would do exactly the same. I never, ever told them how happy I am with her, how she brings out the best of me, always makes me laugh. How I still love her, after all the pointless arguments we both had.
And now I'm split in 2
I really want to give it another go. I've convinced myself that this time, whatever happens, happens and I'll be happy with the outcome, cause then I won't be living my life with this regret of not knowing how far we could've gone, and the guilt I feel for deciding to just give up.
To add to that, everyone one of you were also young and we all made stupid decisions, and if me going back to her is a stupid decision, then I'll gladly learn from whatever happens if we try again, and I'll be happy with the outcome.
I asked my mother for advice on what I should do and how I'm feeling. And she told me I should not contact her and get over it. I asked her what will happen if me and her become friends again, and she says She doesn't care if we do. And when I asked her if we both feel the same and want to start dating again, and her answer kind of threw me off.
"If you ever decide to date her again, after everything I told you, then I completely withdraw myself from your relationship, not that I ever was involved in it, but then you'll never ask me advice on anything related about relationships."
And then I remembered that she also said that my father might just tell me to pack my bags and go live with them......
She told me both of them will never write me off as their child, they just want the best for me, and that she's not the one for me. And she said my dad saying that I should move in with them is just tough love.
For context, I never cry because I've never felt sad or had a reason to cry.
Last night, I sat in my room and I started to cry because I miss this girl so fucking much. My mom walked past my room and asked me what's wrong. I tell her it's nothing and she still asked me what's wrong. So then I told her I missed her and I regret everything I did when we were together. And then she answered me with a cold and irritated voice "Then go to her, call her and ask her out again, so that you can start focusing on this exam, cause you haven't been focusing" *context, I'm also writing my N+ exam in 3 weeks time
I'd never expect my mom to be so cold towards me while I'm hurting and crying
And now I really don't know what to do Cause she told me what is going to happen if me and her start dating again And now she's telling me to get back together
So now I'm in 2..... Do I keep my parents happy and not date her? Or do I follow my own head and heart and give her, us, one last go?
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Right is right, wrong is wrong. You're fucking WRONG. On EVERY fucking level of wrong you can be on. Wrong.
You preaching at people to get them through the same hell YOU PUT HER THROUGH is insulting and pathetic. You can't apologize TO HER so you slap her in the face with your manipulative bullshit and call it GROWTH. You DESERVE to be alone.
You are quite literally the WORST fucking kind of human being.
You're a fucking coward. A soulless little bitch who is nothing but an imposter. A true narcissist who never- NEVER deserved her- her compassion -or her love. She is the epitome of Light. She's so fucking good. To her goddamn core - GOOD.
I hope karma gives you EVERY fucking ounce of pain you inflicted- and continue inflicting -onto her.
Your mama FAILED YOU and raised a bunch of emotionally fucked up narcissistic passive aggressive victimized ASSHOLES. She's looking UP at your dumbasses cheering you all on---- because she was fucking EVIL too.
Choke on your ego and your turkey today you sorry ass piece of shit. I can't believe she tried seeing anything good in you.
Punk ass little bitch.
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