I 25F feel hurt and confused after Thanksgiving with 26M boyfriend of five months. What advice would you give me?

2024.11.29 18:29 Western-Guitar-9038 I 25F feel hurt and confused after Thanksgiving with 26M boyfriend of five months. What advice would you give me?

So my boyfriend 26M and I 25F just had our first holiday together. We have been together for about five months. Earlier in the day, we attended my family’s Thanksgiving. Context, my family is rather friendly, very large, and extroverted. Everything went well. I made a conscious effort to stay near him, make sure he was always included, and introducing him to family. Next up, we went to his family’s. His family is much more aloof, very small, and rigid. I am Autistic which his family doesn’t know. I as a result suffer massive social anxiety, especially in new and unfamiliar people and situations. I have individually met everyone who was there, but I have never attended any family gathering of his prior. During dinner, I communicated as quietly and discreetly as possible to my boyfriend that I was beginning to feel anxious just because I didn’t really know anybody and was in a very unfamiliar situation. His family did acknowledge me, however his sister asked everyone to play a game after dinner except me. Not kidding, asked everyone individually but me. My boyfriend also kept walking away, going outside, and I sat alone for a period of time. I struggled to make conversation with people and when I did, it was very minimal. I eventually was asked my boyfriend to join in their game, to which I did. However, by this point my anxiety had massively risen so badly I felt internally an oncoming panic attack. To make matters worse, most of us were sited on a giant family couch, yet my boyfriend sat far away from me, despite his sister and her man literally cuddling next to each other. To help alleviate my growing anxiety, I messaged my sister about my panic to give me comfort and help me regulate as to not cause a scene. I communicated to her how I had yes already communicated my anxiety to him and how his family was seemingly pretty exclusive. It was hard for me to figure out how to socialize with them, especially because I was extremely anxious. My boyfriend had my iPad which I was using for a second, when he saw the incoming notification from my sister saying how she would be uncomfortable too and would want to not be there. My boyfriend, with zero context, immediately told everyone we are leaving middle of the game. He then told his stepdad to not worry, he will make thanksgiving more simple in the future and walked us out. We get in the car, I’m frantic because what he said to his stepdad made me feel like he was dumping me.
I start having a full blown panic attack. He cold shoulders me and won’t say a word besides accusing me of saying I hated his family- WHICH I HAD NEVER SAID. He then won’t reply to me and gives me the silent treatment besides me asking him to speak to me. He says he’s gonna take me home, but we had to stop at his place to grab my stuff. We get there, I start crying and hyperventilating because not only was I already going to have a panic attack already, I now think I’m getting dumped for literally zero reason. He then tells me to shut up because he didn’t like how loud I was being… I was crying. Then that only made me cry harder of course. He then comes back around to say “I know this is weird but I believe you because you’re crying.” I eventually apologized for hurting him, I was actively trying to suppress my own negative feelings so he would get to spend time with his family and not cause a scene. I told him how I feel as though he never shows me benefit of the doubt. He admitted I was right, he doesn’t give me that. The day before Thanksgiving, I did his dishes, did laundry for him, I bought and made dinner to bring to both of our family’s Thanksgivings, gave him a back massage, made us dinner, etc. i feel like I very clearly take care of him and consider him.
He did spend the rest of the night with me and later I even comforted him with affirming language and held him over how his drug addict brother wasn’t present. As I was comforting him, I realized how unacceptable of behavior he exhibited to me. I was internally enraged that I immediately drew to comfort him and express love towards him when he was upset, but he couldn’t do that for me. In the morning, he bitches at me for not helping him clean up his room. I was genuinely just in a brain fog because I had just woken up. I felt once again like I was being nitpicked. History- he lives with his grandmother. She kicked him out once, I stayed with him and stayed in his car so he wouldn’t sleep alone. Early in our relationship, I found out he was hiding a whole other girlfriend the same day I was pregnant, and chose to give him another shot. At that point though, he’d already said he loved me, wanted kids with me, and we were actively planning a future together. All of these things came to my head when I was comforting him last night and all today. I am left feeling like he doesn’t consider me, I am nitpicked, I am not given the benefit of the doubt, and he doesn’t care about me. I stuck through him through really big things and gave him compassion, while he is willing to chuck me out based on his own false assumptions.
Please give me advice and let me know if I am being unreasonable
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