I hate my step dad
2025.01.19 02:22 catwhomeatscashews I hate my step dad
I don't know how to tell my mom that I had that man. He acts like he's my dad and he's not, and it's not like he's trying to replace some pre existing dad because I never had a dad to begin with.
For background people in my family accused my step dad of trying to touch me and I was trying to defend him untill he actually tried to groom me. I did handle that and told my mom and he came down the next morning to appologize but his apology was just this small little quiet "I was just treating you like family" and he didn't even look me in the eyes. And he did back off, but I still don't feel safe near him at all. Im still scared to leave my door unlocked and I absolutely refuse to be left alone with him and generally just still scared of him. And I still spend nights crying just thinking about him.
Everything he does makes me angry. When he comes to me to suggest movies and shit I just feel uneasy and uncomfortable near him. I try to stay on call with my friends around him so he doesn't try anything even though I don't think he's going to do anything. And when he yells at me like he's my dad when he's not. It's okay if my mom yells at me because she's the only thing I had growing up but when he does it it's wrong and I hate it. Not only that but he's rude as crap to my mom, like when she had surgery on her shoulder due to pain he told me that it's unfair she gets surgery and his shoulder hurts too, her rotator cuff was messed up. And when she takes her medicine he gets angry and tells her she doesn't need it. And when he goes outside to smoke he gets angry at her for not immediately following him like a stray puppy and when she tries to come out he gets angry at her. Not to mention theyve been getting in fights a lot more lately, giving my mom headaches. That turn into migraines, and she has to take shots once a month to help them. And when I'm talking to my mom every mention of him just kills my mood entirely. Not to mention, she's with him so much because he makes her come outside and smoke, that I don't get to spend time with her. And when I really need her she's outside or in the room with him. And I told her and she told me if it's important just tell THEM. I don't want to tell THEM I want to tell HER. I don't want him having anything to do with me, or my emotions, or my life.
But I'm scared to tell my mom I don't like him because I'm scared she'll become distant, and I have a lot of stuff going right now and if she's distant I won't be able to vent to her or I won't be close with her anymore and just the thought of it makes me break down. And I can't vent to my friends because they will make fun of me or want take me seriously, and I can't vent to my sister because she too young and will snitch most likely. I don't know what to do, like literally just writing this out has me in tears.
A while ago my older sister came back for a while and I stayed with her and her friend for the weekend. And she told me that she didn't like him either and he doesn't like her. And ever since I told my mom about the grooming thing he's been becoming irritated with me. I just hate it so much, I don't like that I'm going through this crap at a meisly fuxking 13 years of age. Half of which I didn't even get to spend with my mom because she was out working. I was either with my older sister or my grandpa and I can't vent to either of them because I look up to them and I'm scared they won't like me as much if I tell them this shit. And I don't feel that same comfort level with them as I do between my mom and I.
I just want help, like genuine help. Please
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2025.01.19 02:22 ORIGINALSOULJA Is this curable ?how can I fix my skin condition.. ? Anyway to remove acne scars ?
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2025.01.19 02:22 Amir_Hassain Critical Examination of Flaws and Ethical Concerns in Hadith Narrations
Here is a detailed critique of Sahih al-Bukhari 233 and other similar Hadith narrations, highlighting potential flaws, inconsistencies, or ethical concerns:
Flaws in Sahih al-Bukhari 233
- Use of Urine as Medicine
The scientific validity of using urine as a treatment is highly questionable in modern medicine. While some traditional remedies might have anecdotal support, there is no scientific evidence to back the medicinal use of camel urine.
The idea of consuming urine is unhygienic and could pose health risks rather than cure illnesses.
- Severity of Punishment
The punishment seems disproportionate to their crimes, as it involved extreme torture instead of more humane judicial methods.
- Contradiction with Islamic Mercy
- Lack of Due Process
- Ethical Concerns Over Branding Eyes
Other Flaws in Hadith Narrations
Below are additional examples of Hadiths that contain flaws or raise ethical, scientific, or logical concerns:
- The Sun Prostrates Under Allah’s Throne
Flaws:
Scientifically inaccurate, as the sun does not "set in a muddy spring" or physically prostrate.
Reflects pre-modern cosmological views inconsistent with contemporary astronomy.
- Women Are Deficient in Intellect
Flaws:
This narration is often criticized for being sexist, undermining women’s intelligence and spiritual capacity.
It contradicts the Quran’s emphasis on spiritual equality between men and women (e.g., Surah Al-Ahzab 33:35).
- Killing of Dogs
Flaws:
The mass killing of dogs seems unnecessarily cruel and ecologically harmful.
Dogs are now widely recognized as intelligent and beneficial animals, providing companionship, security, and assistance.
- The Fly's Wing
Flaws:
Scientifically inaccurate, as flies are known to spread diseases and dipping them in drinks increases contamination.
There is no evidence to suggest that flies carry cures for the diseases they spread.
- Marital Relations with Child Brides
Flaws:
This narration has been criticized for endorsing child marriage, which is considered unethical and harmful by modern standards.
It raises significant questions about consent and the well-being of young girls.
- The Punishment for Apostasy
Flaws:
This violates principles of freedom of religion and is incompatible with modern human rights standards.
It contradicts the Quranic verse (2:256): "There is no compulsion in religion."
- Satan Urinating in Ears
Flaws:
This statement is metaphorical at best, but critics argue it reflects superstition rather than divine revelation.
It diminishes the credibility of the Hadith corpus in the eyes of skeptics.
- Camel Milk and Urine Again
Flaws:
Reiterates the earlier concerns about the unhygienic and scientifically unsupported nature of this advice.
- Superstitious Beliefs
Flaws:
Encourages belief in superstition rather than rational or scientific explanations for misfortune.
- Paradise Is Under the Shade of Swords
Flaws:
This Hadith has been interpreted to justify violence in the name of religion.
It contradicts the Quran’s emphasis on peace and mercy.
Conclusion
The Hadith corpus contains many narrations that raise ethical, scientific, and logical concerns. While Muslims often rely on Hadiths to understand Islamic practices, these examples highlight the importance of critical examination and contextual interpretation. Modern scholars and thinkers continue to debate the reliability and relevance of certain Hadiths in contemporary times.
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2025.01.19 02:22 BuzzDancer Military Action
I get so frustrated playing this game. I'm always extremely weak. all the AI's are always extremely strong compared to me.
Then suddenly, I can't expand anymore, and it's because I have a ton of defensive pacts. The game does NOT show me ANY WAY to get rid of these defensive pacts so that I can continue to expand. { Then suddenly one random AI attacks me, and even though I have like 8 defensive pacts, none of my allies come to my aid and I just get completely roflstomped by some AI.
What do you do? How do I not be the absolute weakest thing in an entire group?
Is there any way to not make defensive pacts so I get stuck 100 years in with 0 ability to grow?
I wish there were clear ways to get rid of things. like "Your growth is negative for influence, here's 3 ways to change that", instead of just pointing out that I'm completly stuck.
Gosh this is so infuriating. game after game. Is the answer to just play more? Do I need to use some sort of wiki to figure this stuff out?
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2025.01.19 02:22 DiligentAstronaut178 1st year Transfer Student (UMass Amherst- University of Toronto)
I’m a freshman at UMass Amherst looking to transfer to the University of Toronto St. George. My highschool GPA was ~3.4 with my grades improving each year (got a 4.0 senior year). My first semester at UMass I also got a 4.0 (as a legal studies major) but wasn’t super involved in ECs. For context, I applied to the Faculty of Arts and Sciences for the studies in humanities program at U of T. I’m assuming that if I’m lucky enough to be granted admission it will be highly dependent on my second semester grades, but I’d be interested to hear opinions regarding my chances at being accepted in the first place. I have duel citizenship and am a Canadian citizen.
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2025.01.19 02:22 CelesteTheDrawer Doggy is out. Day 14. Comment your two LEAST favorite characters.
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2025.01.19 02:22 smhihatethis What do you all think of this parts list for a 1080p gaming/content creation build? Is it worth it for ~950$ USD? (Converting from CAD)
I'm upgrading from a pretty bad work laptop so I keep catching myself trying to overdo the upgrade, I would be using this to edit mainly on Premiere Pro and comfortably stream and record some oldenewer games (non AAA for now) that barely even run at lowest settings on my current laptop. Are there any clear oversights on my part or any changes you would make? And, all things considered, is this a good build for $950? Thank you! https://ca.pcpartpicker.com/list/tBVfmC
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2025.01.19 02:22 Spoona_Jay21 Fujifilm 200, Shot on a Minolta X-370
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2025.01.19 02:22 ButterscotchExpress1 Do you mind if there are irritation bumps down there?
Also, how do I get rid of/minimize them?
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2025.01.19 02:22 Ancient_Brick9850 Thought on this clinic?
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2025.01.19 02:22 xellolTiellol How to deal with the first breakup
It happened, it's a very long post, I hope it's the right sub
Good evening everyone, what I never expected happened: I had a fight with my best friend.
Everything starts from New Year's Eve, she and my group of friends and I were on vacation, and when midnight hit something happened in me, I started to get anxious, (I'm a person who thinks too much about the past, and very often I find patterns that in spite of me are true, last year she spent New Year's Eve with her best friend and during the year they fought) and I said to myself "look how it ends", but I tried to do my strength and ignore this negative thought and I went Go ahead.
We are back from vacation and I feel more and more detached from her, I have always been afraid of losing her because she really did a lot for me, and over time I fell in love with her person, her kindness and her goodness of mind.
On Monday I felt a little bad, I told her that I felt alone and that I had no more motivation, we talked a little and in the end it turned out that the problem is me, it's me who doesn't commit and that I'm practically inept, but I swallowed and didn't retort.
Wednesday night he writes to me telling me to see each other the next day and that he had to tell me something, I with terror I showed up at the appointment and everything seemed calm, we talked about this and that as we always do, I was really happy, between me and me I said "I got a lot of paranoia for nothing", until he tells me that she met a guy.
As I told you before I'm in love with her, I'm not afraid to admit it, and so this news stiffened me for a moment and I told her "but didn't you say that by 2025 men are enough" (yes a damn answer I realise it, but that's all I could think of), she looks at me badly telling me that I could answer in a different way and that "I could rejoice in her joys" but we went on.
At the end of the appointment I tell her that although she didn't show it, I'm glad that she met someone (partly it's true but partly it was not to argue and not to create a pretext) but I didn't have to do it: she tells me it's not true and that if it had been I would have answered differently, and she asks me why she answered that way.
I take a breath, I shut up for 5 seconds, and I tell the truth "I didn't do it because I'm jealous of you, I'm jealous when you tell me that you know someone" and from there it all started, "you're an inept, you're worthless, you make me disgust me, for me you've never done anything, when I have a moment no you're there to make me feel even worse, when something nice happens to me you're not happy with me" and I, silently tried to explain my motivations "I don't think I've been in an absolute sense a bad person with you (in a It happened on a couple of occasions), I'm sorry I can't express what I really feel for you with the facts, I'm very sorry to lose you and this thing doesn't make me feel good, I try with all of myself to be what you want me to be" and she answers me with "it means we don't have to be friends and I use your words now that I have to go to the bathroom, good night"
Needless to say, I didn't sleep on the night between Thursday and Friday, I wrote you a papyrus on Friday at lunch saying that I'm sorry it ended like this, I can't always express what I want as I would like and if possible to see each other again to try to recover the recoverable, answer after 5 minutes "no I'm sorry, you always do this anyway"
Today with my group of friends we went to dinner and she was also there, I couldn't look her in the face, I felt like shit for treating her, she didn't tell me the whole dinner of course, when we go out I give her the ticket for a concert we had organised "here, this is for you" needless to say that she snatched it from my hands with all the strength she has and didn't say anything to me.
"Friends see you tomorrow I'm going to sleep" and I ran home, obviously crying.
And so I'm here, tell me anything please, I'm fed up, I think I've given her a lot of support for two years now, a lot of gifts and gifts, dinner offers, economic availability and I've always done it with a smile, because she deserved it more than anyone else, but at the slightest mistake I have to take the insult and fight.
I don't know what to do, she's now part of the group of friends, I can't abandon everyone, I don't have anyone to talk to, I think a psychologist is the most suitable figure for me, what do you think?
Sorry for the very long post
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2025.01.19 02:22 hambabula i539 form h1b1 change status
So i am filling Change of status i539 from H1 to B1/b2, i am filing online, it does not show the option of H1 in "What is your current nonimmigrant status? " Anybody had that same issue ? what did you do to resolve it ? Did you file online or paper .?
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2025.01.19 02:22 tm885a Undecided between two Pro-4Xs
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2025.01.19 02:22 laquintessenceofdust Advice needed: how normal is it to ask a new fling to film sex acts?
A little background: I started seeing (sleeping with) a guy who is over six years younger than I am. Broke things off with my ex-fiancé about a year ago; he was four years older than I am. We were together five years, so I'm a little out of touch with the current dating scene.
Anyway, I've been on three dates with this twentysomething now. We are very different, I'm quiet and nerdy (but attractive, not to toot my own horn, I just think it's relevant), he's more of a party boi (and not as attractive as I am) but insists he's looking for a serious girlfriend. I don't know how much I buy it, but whatever, I wanted to get laid. He sort of love bombed me a bit ("you're gorgeous," "you're out of my league," "you should just be my girlfriend," "come to Paris with me this summer") and I was honest and said I'm not looking for anything serious right now and will probably see other people.
We were due to hang out again today but I'm sick and so we pushed it out to just hanging at his house tomorrow. Netflix and chill kind of thing, I expect. And then he asks in a text whether I'd be down to let him film me sucking him off for his "personal use."
Am I crazy to find this incredibly off-putting? I have done this before, I don't have a problem with it, but in a committed relationship. I don't know this guy. I'm also a semi-public figure and my life would be ruined if it ended up on the internet somehow.
My question is, how normal a request is this and would it be wrong to ghost this guy?
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2025.01.19 02:22 United_Following2988 I NEED HELP!!!
Can someone make a good drawing of Romulus tempest and Satoru Mikami I’m trying to make a edit and I need this ASAP
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2025.01.19 02:22 TheStartupChime TikTok says it’s going offline in the US
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2025.01.19 02:22 LilBlondeRN ⏩️FF to approx 35min20sec In👂 Did anybody else catch this?!?!
 | Ok, yes, I know the long 3.5 hour version of the circumstances leading to this arrest has been posted here (more than once) in the past, but hear me out—that video was so damn long & Dusty behaving so absolutely CRINGE with that nails-on-a-chalkboard screeching (FAKE) “Latina” accent (complete with OBNOXIOUS flailing hand gestures)—dropping F-bombs, ignorant racist remarks & other various obscenities, while LOUDLY droning ON AND ON with her SAME OL TIRED and DELUSIONAL, sexually explicit narrative, about supposedly being “raped” in the streets “AGAIN AND AGAIN” (which she claims were perpetrated by “random abusive black men”—then using her FAKE, racist ass narrative as a convenient EXCUSE to insist all officers of color must “keep their distance” for (her own made up, prefabricated) “trauma” reasons—oh, PLEASE, ho!!! Smmfh). For these reasons (and the pure fact I cannot STAND Dusty’s voice), i was unable to stomach more than maybe an hour of said 3.5 hr “body cam compilation” video. That said, I randomly happened to stumble upon a shortened version focused on the main highlights of this whole incident. Finding the shorter version a bit easier to digest, ive finally managed to hear all the main “highlights” from this particular day/arrest in their entirety. I find it HILARIOUS the way Dusty is so BIG, BAD & TOUGH when she comes face to face with these PO’s IN PUBLIC—yet how RAPIDLY she decompensates and completely LOSES HER SHIT, the minute she arrives at the police station and realizes she’s going to be put into a jail cell (WTF did this MORORN expect?!?) LMFAO. I’m talking FULL BLOWN HYSTERICS—Crying….. Panic….. VICTIM PLAYING on FULL TILT…. Essentially collapsing into a FULL FLEDGED temper tantrum you’d expect from, maaaaybe, an overtired, overstimulated, cranky 2 YEAR OLD who missed their nap. Just past the 35 MINUTE mark, the police officers (who’ve SADLY handled this whiny, disrespectful, cry baby bitch with KID GLOVES from the moment they first made their initial contact with her outside X’s fathers home literally HOURS prior at this point) are preparing to put Dusty in a cell where she belongs—when Dusty COMPLETELY LOSES IT & goes FULL BLOWN INSANE—blurting out WEIRD ASS, highly inappropriate, BIZARRE f-cking SEXUAL inuendos , sounding more like a SEXUALLY DEVIANT, HISTRIONIC, PARANOID SCHIZOPHRENIC with TOURETTE’S SYNDROME, than like the “RESPONSIBLE MAHM OF FOUR” she loves to CLAIM that she is (despite having custody of ZERO). Frankly, idk how all those cops managed to keep a straight face during this particular off-the-chain TYRADE. Did anybody else catch this???? If you FF this video to roughly 35min in, take a listen and tell me what YOU hear in this AWKWARD ass, full-blown DELULU verbal exchange. Lmao submitted by LilBlondeRN to PeopleBeTrippin [link] [comments] |
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2025.01.19 02:22 Available_Phone2196 How do I move my stop loss above breakeven?
Hey guys decently new trader here. So I’m on webull and am wondering if there is anyway to move my stop loss above breakeven so i could make some profit even if the market reverses. How can i do this? Is it even possible?
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