Why Do Straight Men Devalue Their Friendships?
2025.01.20 20:58 cityfeller Why Do Straight Men Devalue Their Friendships?
As a straight white male, I find it difficult to fill my life with close male friends because of how they devalue friendships in general and same-s*x friendships in particular. They obsess over finding a romantic partner and when in a romantic relationship prioritize it over all others.
For me, close friendships are just as valuable as romantic relationships, maybe more-so, but most straight men trivialize and dismiss them as second-rate alternatives to romantic relationships. Women don’t treat their friendships this way, so why do men?
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2025.01.20 20:58 Chance-Drawing-2163 People who have parents that speak other languages...
People who have parents that speak languages different than the language of your current country, you speak more like whom? For example, you live in the US and your parents speak Chinese. You also can speak Chinese but you only like speak to your parents. Let's say your mom is from the south and your dad from the north of China, so you speak with a neutral accent? Or you speak with one parent accent? Or a frankenstein accent?
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2025.01.20 20:58 kopaturex LG G4 8 bit only
Recently got a new LG G4. The picture quality is stunning, but it only does 8 bit colors for me. Firetv stick, xbox one x and ps5 all show me 8b when i hit the green button seven times. The colors look washed out. I reset the tv and the consoles and bought the playstation certified hdmi cable, but it is still the same. Can i set the bit depth somewhere in the tv's settings? I don't find anything This is so frustrating!
Any help is appreciated!
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2025.01.20 20:58 EscapeNew1916 A moda do abacaxi invertida chegando por aqui
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2025.01.20 20:58 weehugheses Team aura help.
See when it says it strengthens my team aura by 15% does this mean 15% ontop of the aura or 15% of the aura ?
So if u use odin with a 40% boost for voids does this make it 55% or 46% ( +15% of 40)
And is it the same for the new relics like improves tm reduction by 15%, is that 15% ontop of 15% of the chance?
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2025.01.20 20:58 Pacer76 The Girl Scouts have set up a 100% free shop for kids affected by the fires.
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2025.01.20 20:58 idcidk69420 I've just realized that...
I've just realized that on my playlist there is a name almost in every song from Illuminati (Aavesham) and Roohe (Neru) and this name is Vinayak Sasikumar... is he the only one lyricist we have? I love his versatility, but wow...
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2025.01.20 20:58 Purple-Ant4924 Need advice
Hey so, i've never had a watch in my life, and i wasn't planning to have one, but recently, i need it for my work, so i work in a beauty salon, and i Wash hair, everyday, every hour, and i need a watch that is pretty, waterproof, and that shows me the numbers, cause im really bad at reading the points or sticks of the normal ones, haha, but the digitales one look non aesthetic to me, so do you have a watch that you would recomend me? I want something femenin or elegant, Help
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2025.01.20 20:58 ConsiderationOk254 Air purifiers
Is a .1 microns air purifier better than .3 microns one?
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2025.01.20 20:58 Big-Vehicle9851 I need a reading to make a decision
I don't know if the person I love has left me or is just away, but with the hope that he is just dealing with his grief, I have been sending him good morning and good night messages these last two days, I didn't even get the preview, now I intend to buy him a gift in Fortnite as a result of the "tarot reading" I did for chatGPT (they say it has more or less the same results as reading with real cards), and I need to know if what I'm doing is helping something, harming and whether the gift will be well received. I can't pay for using Brazilian currency and also for having spent all my money after getting desperate and spending it on religious things...
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2025.01.20 20:58 Due-Welcome5134 Why Were Odachi Swords So Long? 🤔
This explains Yuzuriha’s sword interestingly.
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2025.01.20 20:58 Cezz-97 Lydia Violet calling Chat Blabbermouths
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2025.01.20 20:58 ilyk101 Raunchy content turns me off from a podcast
Watching Not Loveline right now and listening to them talk about how raunchy and r-rated the Patreon is turns me off from it. It’s the same reason why I didn’t listen to Call Her Daddy. I like the current set up of the podcast where they just chit-chat. Anyone else?
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2025.01.20 20:58 NoiseNo3059 I feel controlled by my fear of contamination.
Throughout my life I've had thoughts or thoughts patterns that in hindsight resemble OCD but I feel like it's gotten much worse now. I'm not asking for a diagnosis here, and plan on talking with my doctor about this later this week.
Recently I feel like I am not truly in control of myself and like my anxiety is actually in control of me. I cancelled plans with friends because someone who might be there had bedbugs a year ago. I don't know the current status of the bedbugs but it doesn't matter anyways, even if they were gone now I would still worry about if there was an egg in their home, or a bug on their clothing.
I tried to create an environment to see them that I would still feel comfortable in, but ultimately cancelled because the guilt I'd feel for cancelling plans would be easier to handle then the prolonged anxiety of checking for bedbugs and decontaminating myself and belongings for the next few weeks.
In addition to that fear, I also worry that my friends who do see each other without me will get bed bugs, and that I will no longer feel that going to their homes will be safe for me anymore.
Prior to that I saw a friend cut his hand while cooking, leading to me convincing myself I will get HIV and going to urgent care to do a month long round of PEP medication and several rounds of blood-borne disease testing. I still have one more round of testing but finally feel some relief about this issue.
My fears of getting, or spreading disease prevent me from enjoying myself. I don't want to be a total shut in recluse but I feel safer at home where I don't have to worry about bringing back deadly diseases or horrible pests because I never leave.
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2025.01.20 20:58 sthru2 Comprehensive recap w/ reviews of past Romantasy reads!
WARNING: Long post!!
After trying Romantasy for the first time 2-3 years ago, I started tearing through recs so quickly that I literally couldn't keep track of what I'd read. SO, naturally, I ended up creating an excel sheet of my reads (corporate girlie at your service) with ratings/thoughts etc..
As someone who likes to deep dive in reviews before picking up a new book, I thought I'd paste some highlights here! This will be pretty long as I'm pasting these notes directly. Would love to hear other people's recs too if you have any!
**disclaimer: these are just my own personal takes on these - everyone has different tastes!
For reference, I tend to like books with: Descriptive/flowery writing, immersive world building, slow burn romance, morally grey MMC and/or FMC, witty dialogue.
I am not usually a fan of: YA (no spice), modern urban fantasy, insta-lust/insta-love, copy-paste FMCs with no real originality, flat/immature dialogue, virgin heroine trope, questionable sexual consent scenes
TOP READS: 4.5 - 5 star reads that are near and dear to my heart
- Villains & Virtues series by A.K. Caggiano - Also posted about this here
- FIVE. STARS. SO EFFING GOOD. Fantasy romance following an "evil" half-demon blood mage who is forced to abduct this adorable, bubbly, ray of sunshine of a human woman and they embark on an epic journey together. The prose is a little heavy/overwhelming in the beginning, but push through bc it is beautiful and HILARIOUS - it's basically satire, subtly making fun of itself and the genre's stereotypes without going overboard. Everything from the writing to the world to the characters is so original and refreshing. These definitely could have used an editor for typos/grammar in some places but it wasn't a dealbreaker for me. Truly adore both of the main characters!! The romance is SLOOOOW burn but it's honestly like the spiciest lowish-spice books ever because the *tension* scenes are woooof. But there is actual spice at the end! ALL of the characters are wonderful and hilarious and charming and this series is criminally underrated!! Also has a spin-off which was sweet but loved the main trilogy the most.
- Mages of the Wheel by J.D. Evans
- Probably the most unique series on this list; world setting is inspired by the Middle East, centering around politics of warring kingdoms. Magic system is very unique, with magic-wielding people as "mages". But the WRITING - It's ridiculously beautiful, truly makes most books in this genre feel like child's play. Very plot-driven, however the character development is extremely thorough, even the most minor of side characters are multi-dimensional from personality to backstory to motives. Each book moves the underlying plot forward but revolves around a different romance, although OG characters remain involved. BUT - the way the romances are written honestly set a new standard for romance writing for me. The chemistry, tension and overall evolution of each relationship is so believable & excellently crafted, you can't help but become invested to the point that any intense moment genuinely moves you or breaks your heart. And the spice! Every spicy scene is so beautifully written, tasteful and lovely (but not prudish/conservative.) Real & complex romance versus insta-lust with no substance. READ THIS SERIES
- Throne of Glass by Sarah J. Maas
- Worth the hype IMO. MMC is my #1 main man and side characters/story lines were as easy to get invested in as the main ones, plus the FMC is one of my favorites (morally grey badass hiding a heart of gold w/ a healthy serving of ✨unstable✨) Plot-driven & enough political intrigue that it still appeals to readers who don't care about the romance elements. I rarely cry when I read but I probably cried 4+ times during this series, you just become so immersed in the world and emotionally invested in the characters by the end. Reading order: Highly recommend reading AB after HoF and doing the tandem read of EoS/ToD
- When the Moon Hatched by Sarah A. Parker
- Serious CHILLS from this series. Tragically, only the first book is out but just ... wow. The world building is 100% original and so fleshed out, there's DRAGONS, the writing is beautiful. The plot is heart-wrenching and absolutely lovely; the backstory of the characters (especially the FMC) is crucial to the story and is woven in so seamlessly. The plot twists are endless but so perfect. The MMC and FMC's relationship is top 3 of all time that I've read. The romance has so much substance and LOVE and heartbreak and UGH. I just know Raeve & Kaan are going to break and remake my heart before this series is done. Giving it a 3/5 spice level because the spice be spicin' even though it takes a bit before it makes an appearance. Literally ordered the physical book as soon as I finished it. Be warned that this is HIGH fantasy - a lot of world to digest, but it's so worth it if you love a truly immersive, whimsical world in a book!
- The Bridge Kingdom by Danielle L. Jenson
- Was skeptical about this series when I started but it stole my heart! Definitely a romance focus first and foremost, but the world building is a huge highlight and beautifully captures the setting the series takes place in. No magical elements here but TBK's world has an ethereal quality to it with diverse landscapes/climates and warring kingdoms, feels very original and immersive. Books 1-2 follow a diff couple than books 3-4, and both romances are very sweet; first storyline had a lot more slow burn/tension/better chemistry and a more unique setting, but the MMC in the second storyline was my fav main character (second FMC was a little boring) and it also digs more into the politics which gets interesting.
- A Court of Thorns & Roses by Sarah J. Maas
- Fantastic world building and characters, definitely more romance heavy than ToG but the romance is top tier - just didn't find the plot or characters to be written as maturely as ToG. MMC is tied w/ MMC from ToG though which is saying something! Strong found family element, side characters are charming and well developed. Book #1 can be a struggle as #2 is where things really get going. Plenty of eye-rolling cliches/common romantasy tropes if you dislike those, but personally I enjoy a healthy dose of cheesy cliches in romance/fantasy books as long as they're executed well, which I'd say these are. Plenty of spice!
- Flesh and Fire series by Jennifer L. Armentrout
- Prequel to Blood and Ash; I definitely would say I enjoyed this series more than the other! Love the MMC, he has the "shadow daddy" vibe but turns out to be super wholesome and just working through his own traumas; the FMC is more morally grey and has a rewarding character arc. But UGH their relationship itself is both achingly sweet and frustratingly heartwrenching, just full of love & angst & tenderness & yearning, which makes the hard moments tug at your heartstrings that much more (and there are plenty of hard moments). Also the SPICE?!?!? DAMN. The writing style is lovely but the plot can get stagnant and the inner dialogues sometimes excessive, also there are a few too many similarities between this series and Blood & Ash from characters to dialogue to storyline. I'd say this series did it better but it's hard to ignore if you read both close together.
- Order and Chaos Series by Alexis Menard
- Peaky Blinders inspired series! Rival gangs/crime families with a setting based on late 1800s/early 1900s London. Suuuuper cool premise. I devoured the first book. It's definitely heavy on the romance over the fantasy piece which I was bummed by, literally because the premise is so fun and I wanted more of it! That being said, the romance itself is AMAZING. The bantedialogue between FMC/MMC was excellent, with such great chemistry and tension too. Seriously, the tension is OFF the charts. Also I loved the MMC more than I expected to! His personality (suave & witty) and his backstory felt refreshingly original compared to how common the shadow daddy trope is. Also really loved the FMC, she didn't annoy me at all and was competent/intelligent. There were a few parts of the plot that felt a bit disjointed but maybe will all come together in the second book!
- A Court This Cruel & Lovely by Stacia Stark
- Personally really got into this series! The found family element was the highlight for me as I easily got invested in the side characters & relationships in a way that I haven't outside of ToG/ACOTAR. The TENSION and SPICE was SO GOOD. FMC wasn't obnoxious which is more than I can say for many romantasy series. Writing style isn't top tier but still witty and entertaining. Overuse of stereotypical romantasy tropes held it back overall (definitely took some cues from ToG) and there were a couple of questionable consent moments I wish had been written differently. Bottom line: could understand someone being meh on this series, but personally it managed to end a serious reading slump; the tension/spice + found family carried it for me.
- Kindred's Curse Saga by Penn Cole
- This series managed to shoot up to one of my top reads in this genre, writing style is lovely (author is self-published!) The FMC/MMC relationship was one of my all-time romantasy favorites, up there with ACOTAR - the evolution/pacing of their relationship feels believable and genuine, top-tier chemistry & tension from the beginning. Slooooow burn but incredibly worth it as Luther is *chef's kiss* swoon-worthy. The dialogue is thoughtfully written, especially between MMC/FMC - MMC's dialogue to FMC is downright poetic at times. FMC has that typical romantasy badass vibe but I still found her character unique & engaging, but she does get a bit annoying with her behaviodecision making later in the series. Solid & believable character development. Really unique world/setting and magic system. Some moments where the plot seems to stagnate (book 3) but not horrible. Has LGBT+ rep!
- Fourth Wing by Rebecca Yarros
- Writing style and dialogue could use some work to put it lightly LOL but I still couldn't put it down because of the fun premise/quick pacing that kept me engaged. Captivating plot (dragons!) Adore the morally grey MMC. Also love the invisible illnesses rep by FMC; she's a good character but starts sounding whiny/immature in book 2, as if her character development seemed to randomly halt/regress? The internal & external dialogue drove me a little crazy, but it partially makes up for that with some humor and overall entertainment factor to keep you engaged. Has LGBT+ rep! Bottom line, the unique plot/setting and solid MMC carried; I'd call this more of a guilty pleasure series as the writing isn't very polished/sophisticated
- Plated Prisoner Series by Raven Kennedy
- Overall did get really into this series and binged it quickly! One of the series' biggest strengths is an incredibly rewarding character arc of the FMC, who is working through the trauma of domestic violence and more - feminine rage is a strong element which I loved. I also adored the "shadow daddy" MMC and the development of their relationship. World building is very strong! A main gripe I had was that the plot starts to feel all over the place as the series progresses, like the author was trying to fit too many major plot points into a single series - definitely felt a bit disorienting and exhausting by book 4 & 5. The spice also felt a little lazy after the first couple of scenes (for lack of a better word)? Those scenes eventually started to blend together, often excessively raunchy in a way that felt like it was compensating for the scene's lazy writing without actually adding value.
- Blood and Ash series by Jennifer L. Armentrout
- The tension/chemistry between FMC/MMC is addictive right from the start, and it gets spicyyyy as the books go on. Found family element is solid. The gods lore/mythology is unique and extensive. I wish I could rate this higher since I obviously binged the entire series for a reason, but I think the underlying issue is that the series has been drawn out for too long - it relies on plot twists that often feel predictable or unnecessary, and dialogue also suffers in later books with interactions and call-backs/inside jokes etc. getting redundant. Last issue is, as much as I loved the MMC for the majority of the series, his understanding of consent at the beginning had some questionable moments that left a bad taste in my mouth, which is unfortunate as he's otherwise a pretty 10/10 MMC
- Serpents and the Wings of Night by Carissa Broadbent
- To be clear: I definitely enjoyed this series, it was well written and had an interesting plot, but just wasn't for me. The FMC was unique and multi-layered, personally I struggled to connect with her but I can appreciate the complexities of her character. I did really love the MMC! Main reasons I'm not rating it higher are due more to my personal preferences: I wasn't huge on the gothic undertones or the whole "Hunger Games" trope in the first book, and I wished there was more of a found family element - there is a little bit but there were few non-villainous side characters and I didn't get super invested in those relationships.
- Crescent City by Sarah J. Maas
- On my first try, made it less than 3 chapters into the first book due to info dumping right off the bat (and honestly urban fantasy isn't really my jam.) Later on I pushed through & got invested! The FMC initially felt shallow & underdeveloped but you'll realize that's by design as you learn more about her character. 1st book was absolutely my favorite as the storyline & various POVs get increasingly disjointed in book 2 and 3. I will say that it's a huge contrast from other SJM in many ways, but it's my favorite urban romance/fantasy I've read, at the very least!
- Lady of Darkness by Melissa Roerich
- IMO, straight-up a ripoff of SJM plotlines :( The FMC is an assassin raised from childhood by a lord of assassins, turns out to be *gasp* fae and *gasp* the queen of a neighboring fae realm (sound familiar?) Started off super invested and was willing to push through those similarities but it spiraled. The worst part was the FMC getting increasingly frustrating with horrible decision-making that she never appears to learn from. Basically 0 character development, meh writing and overall unoriginal story, doesn't bother to expand on stereotypical tropes. I did enjoy the MMC and a couple of the side characters
- Song of the Marked series by S.M. Gaither
- Loved it at the beginning but the storyline and writing started to DRAGGGG on, put it down in book 3. FMC started feeling increasingly stereotypical & unmemorable, romantic plotline felt like it developed way too quickly w/o enough chemistry. Maybe I could have pushed through and been pulled back in but who knows. I felt that certain elements of the overall plot were unique!
- Fae Isles series by Lisette Marshall
- I really tried to love this series but ended up DNFing after the first book! There were a lot of really unique things about the plot and magic system, but I think it was the immaturity of the FMC that I just couldn't get past, from her inner dialogue to decision making. The writing in general just wasn't that impressive for me personally. That being said, a lot of people love this series so those things might improve if you push through!
- City of Gods and Monsters by Kayla Edwards
- Tried to give this one a fair shot since so many people love this series, but I instantly was turned off by it. Romance was insta-lust and the writing just wasn't that great. Also, super early on, the MMC's POV starts describing how her shirt hugged her "flat" stomach and things like that which gave me the ick - you can describe attractive physical qualities about a character without it revolving around a tiny waist and enormous boobs, ya know? I DNFed this one pretty early so maybe it gets better, but who knows. Reminded me too much of Crescent City from the get-go.
2025.01.20 20:58 RelaxRomeo Are these gums pink enough?
Apologies for the bad photos! She’s a squirmish girl. Her nose and tongue are both definitely pink. I would say her gums are pink enough and just have a natural paleness, but I want to get a second opinion on if I should take her into the vet.
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2025.01.20 20:58 DimensionCorrect5347 Are Pissf-g and Fuck the world there on day five?
 | I’m on day 4 right now and my suggestion is CRIMINALLY low, but I really wanted to match with Kim this run. So I was gonna wait till day five to do the jacket check, but I’m not sure if they will still be here. If anyone knows just lmk :)) submitted by DimensionCorrect5347 to DiscoElysium [link] [comments] |
2025.01.20 20:58 jaidenceraaa Paranoid much? What's going on?
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2025.01.20 20:58 WWF_FAN-99 If shawn had not had the vinnie mac match he would have had 8 year in a row wrestlemania classics
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2025.01.20 20:58 Snoo_49285 On So Where’s The Petition To Get The Entire Storyline Of This Game Made Into An Anime Series?
I know people talk shit about the sorry but overall the world, the beautiful settings and the characters so all so amazing.
It would be epic as a well done anime!!!!
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2025.01.20 20:58 Sea_Barber_7398 Fifth Attempt coming up
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2025.01.20 20:58 hemanescamilla Fourth year phase 1.23: Team 45 (Bebe Rexha, Cardi B, Megan Thee Stallion) vs Team 46 (Ice Spice, Doja Cat, Nicki Minaj)
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2025.01.20 20:58 reddit_lss_1 Test Title 2025-01-20 20:57:37
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2025.01.20 20:58 Felegran En serio me siento muy solo, no me siento capaz de expresarme con alguien
Desde que tengo uso de la razón 7 años más o menos, siempre he sido una persona que tiende a ser introvertida, insegura, tímida y con baja autoestima, fui criado por mi abuela ya que mis padres debían trabajar mucho (y aún lo hacen), yo siempre permanecía en casa, muy poco salía y mi abuela me cuidó muy bien pero nunca fue una persona de muchas palabras, en el colegio era frecuente que no tuviese compañeros con quién hablar y tuviese temor de que me hiciesen acoso por cualquier razón. Cuando entre en la adolescencia empecé a padecer de depresión y tuve muchas situaciones fuertes, pero en general permanecía encerrado en mí cuarto jugando videojuegos, viendo series y películas, escuchando música o leyendo, estuve un par de veces internado en un hospital psiquiátrico por depresión mayor. Cuando entre a la universidad todo mejoró un poco, salía más y me relacionaba un poco más, pero aún así no tenía alguien con quien hablar, no amigos, ni familia o pareja. Estando en la universidad tuve un accidente que me dejó con una discapacidad muy seria, ahí todo volvió a empeorar, pasé por muchos psicólogos y psiquiatras y aunque no me iba mal y lograba expresarme no importaba porque nuestra relación no era íntima más allá de la terapia.
E intentado comunicarme y hablar con amigos, familia y las enfermeras que me asisten pero me sale mal, yo no me siento capaz de abrirme hacia las personas, me da desconfianza y mucho miedo a ser juzgado, regañado e incluso violentado, en momentos de desesperación llamo a mi mamá para tratar de hablar pero casi siempre terminamos discutiendo. A pesar de estar acompañado todo el tiempo (debido a las enfermeras), me siento demasiado solo, desde hace ya más de un año que voy con un psicólogo pero ahora no me siento capaz de hablar ni siquiera con él, siento un cúmulo de cosas que yo me guardo solo pero no sé qué hacer, es algo que me hace sentir muy mal emocionalmente pero también físicamente, me está enfermando.
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2025.01.20 20:58 behind_the_shine Outing suspended
My outing is suspended for 1/2 months but next month I will be going back to home for few days . Will my leave get approved or will I face any problem?
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