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2025.01.26 07:22 SnooDoodles474 Navigating Boundaries and Healing While Living with Family
[Trigger Warning] Discussion of boundary violations, emotional triggers, and family dynamics.
Hi y'all! Self-healer here who actively goes to therapy and is always looking to grow. My intention in writing this is to connect with others meaningfully and positively. I wanted a place where I could reflect while staying anonymous but also be as open and honest about my experience. Just a heads-up—this might be a long post, as it chronicles my feelings and experiences over the past year.
I am an introvert and very private about my life. I have been diagnosed with panic attacks, anxiety, depression, and CPTSD. I am also neurodivergent. Over the last year, I have had to adjust quickly to significant life changes, which has been really difficult for me emotionally and mentally as a neurodivergent person. I was laid off from my job, broke my apartment lease due to mold, moved into an Airbnb temporarily, and then relocated across the country to stay with a relative.
My relative (we'll call her Kelly) offered to let me stay rent-free while I worked on becoming financially stable and finding a job. Making major life decisions is something I never do on a whim. As someone on the spectrum, it takes a lot of energy and time for me to think through every possible avenue. This process is essential to my autonomy and confidence.
It was hard emotionally to decide to move. My closest friends (we'll call them Harry and Sally) from back home helped convince me that it would be a good choice in the long run to help me financially, reminding me that it was only temporary. I cried and thought about it for weeks. Home was where I felt safe. Harry and Sally were my strongest connections, and we saw each other almost weekly. Every time I was around them, I felt grounded and safe.
Over the years, I had done a lot of inner healing work, focusing on my inner child, self-awareness, boundaries, communication, and authenticity. Leaving home was scary because I feared regressing in the progress I had made, and the uncertainty of when I could return weighed heavily on me. Nine months have passed, and my feelings haven't changed much.
I talk to Harry and Sally almost every week, updating each other about our lives. Since I left, I've visited them every couple of months, and we mail each other photos of our shared memories. I have struggled with a personal fear of being forgotten, something I've always been honest and open about in therapy and in my relationships.
During one of my therapy sessions, I shared how much I appreciated Sally and how grateful I was to have a friend who consistently checks in on me despite the distance. I cried, expressing my deepest fear of waking up one day without Sally in my life. I later texted Sally about what I told my therapist in an effort to be vulnerable, and she responded with kindness and reassurance, as she always does.
Since moving in with Kelly, I have tried engaging with the local community by attending pickleball open courts, but I didn't enjoy it as much as I did back home. The people and atmosphere felt different. The desert environment has also made it difficult to enjoy my favorite hobbies, such as paddleboarding, kayaking, camping, and nature walks.
Career-wise, the transition has been challenging. It took me a few months to figure out that I wanted a career that aligned with my values and offered job security. I eventually pursued a certification in Electronic Health Records, knowing that healthcare aligns with my core values. Talking with my close friends, who work in healthcare and education, helped me feel more confident in my decision.
Since being away from home, my motivation to return has been a driving force, helping me manage my depression. I've also been going to the gym daily since the start of the year, finding that physical exercise helps alleviate my depression, even if temporarily.
Now that I've caught up to the present, I want to talk about Kelly. I've known her since I was born and have always loved her. She has good intentions and genuinely wants to help others, especially me. In the beginning, things were great. We laughed and watched Netflix together, and it felt like a "honeymoon stage." But over time, we both fell into our routines. I found myself having to repeatedly set and reinforce boundaries.
Initially, I realized that Kelly struggled with vulnerability and boundaries. I chalked it up to senior moments since Kelly is in her mid-70s, making it difficult to connect with her on a deeper level. I had panic attacks for months from adjusting to my new environment and the withdrawal from home. When I sought support from Kelly, she invalidated my experience by saying I was entitled to some, but not all, of my panic attacks. This response made it harder to be open about my feelings, and I became more intentional about sharing my emotions. It reactivated my old coping skills from when I was a kid—feeling invalidated.
I made efforts to connect with her by inviting her to join me in my hobbies like pickleball, walks, and pottery painting, but she always declined. Eventually, I respected her choices and stopped asking. While I enjoy my own company, the hunger for more meaningful connections and shared experiences worsened over time, making my depression harder to manage.
Over time, things started to feel more challenging. Kelly's codependency, insecurities, lack of respect and understanding of boundaries, low emotional intelligence, and controlling tendencies began to surface. She would criticize aspects of my personality, my need for alone time, and even my appearance. Simple tasks, like grocery shopping, could escalate into emotional outbursts from her. Living with these unpredictable reactions triggered my panic attacks, adding to my emotional fatigue.
To meet my need for solitude and reflection, I booked an Airbnb for a couple of days to recharge. I gave myself the space I needed to meditate, journal, and enjoy some time paddleboarding. This decision triggered Kelly, who made me feel guilty for spending money on myself, stating that I should be saving it. I reminded myself that her reaction was a reflection of her own financial concerns rather than a reflection of my choices.
She made a comment at one point, saying there was something wrong with me and that I needed help. This was during a deep depression when I needed a lot of personal alone time. I wasn’t comfortable expressing my true experience or feelings because she wasn’t comfortable with vulnerability, making it really hard to show myself compassion while feeling chronically alone.
Through therapy, I've realized that Kelly's behaviors stem from her unresolved trauma and people-pleasing tendencies. As a recovering people-pleaser myself, being around such behavior has been particularly challenging. It has resurfaced painful memories from my childhood and made me question whether I was regressing. However, my therapist reassured me that I was doing the best I could.
My coping strategy has been to mindfully separate Kelly's reactions from my own choices and needs. I spend most of my time alone and keep our interactions minimal. It wasn't what I initially wanted, but it's necessary to protect my peace and well-being.
If you've read this far, thank you. I hope sharing my journey resonates with someone out there. I'm always looking to learn and grow from others who might have experienced something similar. How have you managed to maintain your boundaries while living with family?
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2025.01.26 07:22 No-Today-7641 does anyone wanna be friends fr im pretty cool n have other friends im just bored rn🙄
ok listen hey im 15 and im like awesome i like to DRAW and SING and write music and speech and debate is lowk my personality rn but i wont be annoying abt it fr this feels like im trying to get someone to date me but i supa like to read and play roblox 😛 we should be besties maybe
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2025.01.26 07:22 PotentialLatter7572 empezando de nuevo
se me olvido firmarlo xd para la otra xd
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2025.01.26 07:22 TheSaltySeagull87 Is this worth 32€?
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2025.01.26 07:22 Icy_Hovercraft_6058 What are real Manhattan upscale private schools like?
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2025.01.26 07:22 ACMRelT69 Asking out a long term friend
Hi guys,
Just wondering if I should ask a girl I’ve known for 15 years.
As background we met in middle school. She was my first crush but at the time she had a boyfriend so I never asked her out. I had to move away at the end of the school year but we’ve loosely kept in touch over social media.
In the 15 years we have never met in person and she had a handful of boyfriends but she is single at the moment. Based on the guys she’s dated though, I’m probably out of my depth; they’re all athletic and tall whereas I’m chubby muscular and average in height.
Having said all that though, I was visiting my family in the hometown where we grew up and discovered she’s moved back permanently. I wasn’t doing much one day and asked if she wanted to meet up just to catch up.
She agreed and we chatted for a bit and discovered we shared a few hobbies. So instead of meeting up and chatting over a meal we decided to do the hobbies instead.
We went out a few times over the course of my stay in my hometown. Each time she always thanked me for taking her out. We actually took turns paying for the activities but I did drive us to the venues. This made me wonder if she thought I was asking her out on a date in those times.
For the past month I have been back to the city where I am residing and regretting not asking her out before I left. Her texts have also dried up compared to when we were communicating while I was visiting my hometown.
I am 8 hours away from her at the moment but I will be moving to another city that is 2 hours away by plane. I’m just wondering if it’s worthwhile asking to see if she would be interested in a long distance relationship given the circumstances.
My main worry is that I’ll lose her as a friend. I have asked out close female friends in the past and the friendship have either deteriorated noticeably, as in there was a gap that appeared, or the friendship died. In those cases it was a mix of the women being uncomfortable or “betrayed” by my feelings and me distancing myself to get over my feelings.
In the long run though, for all those past instances, I have always somewhat regretted asking those ladies out because I genuinely enjoyed their platonic company.
What do you all think though? Should I give it a go? If she says yes I can make it work by visiting home several times a month. But if not, I know it will sting and that I may lose a friend from it, but I don’t think it will kill me.
We are both entering our late 20s currently.
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2025.01.26 07:22 _A_Lost_Cat_ Biggest lies PIs say to you
What are lies that all PIs telling everyone? I'll go first: "It is a low hanging fruit!" Wherever your pi say that it means nothing and probably you still have to work a lot!
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2025.01.26 07:22 Jacket_Express Does anyone know how to do this mission??
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2025.01.26 07:22 altohamy Tutorial: how to design decorative 3D Wall
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2025.01.26 07:22 InevitableFlesh I'm starting to miss it again
Background: I just turned 20 almost a week ago, and I've been vaping since 2019. I had a couple nicotine pouch phases that never lasted more than a month or two, but other than that I've been vaping every day for almost six years straight. The buzzes got duller and duller, and I constantly felt short of breath. I felt like I was dying, and that made me incredibly anxious. Over the past two or so years, I had thought about quitting many times, but I never made any serious attempt to quit.
On the first day of October 2024, I started on my first serious attempt to quit nicotine altogether. My girlfriend still vaped, so I decided to have a week to myself just to make it through the hard part. I had bought the game disc about a month before this point, so I decided to revisit an old Wii game that I grew up playing; I wanted to subconsciously take myself back to a time when I could still have fun and genuinely enjoy things without nicotine. For anyone curious, the game was Super Paper Mario, and it's such a hidden gem. It took me a few days to finish the game, and it felt like such a huge accomplishment to do that and to actually enjoy it 100% nicotine-free.
The world really started to feel so much more colorful. My mood felt more balanced, I didn't feel super anxious, I derived so much more joy from the simple pleasures of life, and my lungs felt so much better... but you guys know how it is. There were always certain things that I associated with the nicotine buzz -- watching a YouTube video, walking my dog, playing a video game, drinking, et cetera. I couldn't handle those triggers. After two or three weeks, I started hitting my girlfriend's vapes again, and a few weeks after that I ordered some Zyns online. For a few weeks after receiving them in the mail, I used them every day.
But for some reason, something just clicked one day. I realized that I didn't want to consume nicotine anymore, and I realized it with more certainty than I had ever felt before. This was in early December 2024, and ever since then, I have hardly thought about nicotine at all. I didn't even throw away the Zyns -- I just put them in my basement. I probably should throw them out, but even with them being so accessible every day, I have felt very little temptation to go grab one.
This is by far the longest that I have ever gone without nicotine in over half a decade, and I first got addicted to nicotine during some of the most formative years of my life. It's such a weird feeling. On one hand, I have absolutely zero breathing problems now. None at all. My cardiovascular health is SO much better. I'm not nearly as constantly anxious as I used to be. My ability to enjoy things without an external substance has greatly improved.
I've had a lot on my plate over the last three months. Maybe that's a big part of why I was able to stay off of nicotine for over a month and a half without even thinking about it. But over the past few days I've been growing more and more aware of the fact that there's still a nicotine-shaped hole in my heart, and I don't know if that will ever change.
I'm well past the point of withdrawal, cravings and physiological dependence, but I miss it. That's what's so hard about this. I'm no longer dependent on nicotine, but even from the outside, even after finally escaping from nicotine's iron grip, I still miss it.
Does that nicotine-shaped hole in your heart ever go away? Will your triggers always be triggers? Will some part of you always miss it? If so, how do you cope with that in the long term?
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2025.01.26 07:22 vich_lasagna Should I BULK ? or CUT until my abs are clearly visible without flexing them?
I haven't flexed my abs in either of the left pictures, but in the ones on the right, I have.
Age: 23 Height: 5'6"
Weight when I joined gym: 65kg
Current weight: 54.7 kg
Should I BULK ? or keep CUTTING until my abs are clearly visible without flexing them?
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2025.01.26 07:22 Husbandaru Junyard.
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2025.01.26 07:22 4zm0d3uz Que rollo con mi ex?
A ver chicas y vatos también, tengo una relación con mi ex, duramos como 3 años (m27) y yo (h29) y ahorita somos como tipo amigos ( nada sexual, ni besos ni agarradas de mano, nada) Se puede decir que sale con alguien, no me consta, pero se que se mensajea y habla con alguien, pero me lo oculta sabiendo que pues yo ya se, a qué se debe este comportamiento de parte de ella, ¿¿¿como queriendo ocultarlo???
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2025.01.26 07:22 geird Milchik's skills
You guys wondering how Milkshake carries the pineapples on his bike, let me introduce you to James, the fruit salad guy, from Brazil
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2025.01.26 07:22 k1am234 Need for speed most wanted (2005)
I’ve been wanting to play this game for years now, someone please help me figure out how to get it on the deck
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2025.01.26 07:22 knivesandpens1 37 [MF4F] #NH/online Mature couple interested in creating a unique and lasting connection.
Hello all,
I’m the male half of a married couple. I’m a writer, business professional, husband, father of 2, and a general seeker of adventure. I do my best to live an interesting and purposeful life. I’m passionate about the pursuit of wisdom. My ambition in life is to be the type of man that my family and friends can rely on. I love reading and writing, music, good coffee, being outdoors, deep conversations, meditation.
I’m here to explore the idea of forming a relationship with another woman. Someone who would be interested in the possibility of romantic involvement with both myself and my wife. Someone who would be interested in creating something long term and lasting. I understand that is a big ask, but it’s the dynamic we would like to explore.
I’m not looking for a fling to spice up our marriage. We’re not looking for someone to fill a void or some kind of unhealthy fantasy…We’re happy in our current relationship and enjoy peace in our household. I’m here exploring what is possible. I’m interested in building on an already great foundation and creating something truly unique.
If any of this interests you. Please reach out. I’d love to chat. Don’t be shy. Talk soon.
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2025.01.26 07:22 gustawforyou ask my OC/Avatar anything! :D
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2025.01.26 07:22 playful890 new transformer for the year
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2025.01.26 07:22 Frosty_Ad_8380 psychometrician, psychologist, psychiatrist
hello! i am looking for a psychometrician, pyschologist, or psychiatrist who are open to answer a few interview questions!
for a brief background i am an undergrad bs psychology student and that this is an activity for our abnormal psychology course
please comment below if you are free and willing to answer, thank you so much in advance!
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2025.01.26 07:22 koalasbecauseyes Does anyone know this mod?
It's name is County Funkin and I personally think it's one of the most underrated mods of all time.
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2025.01.26 07:22 No_Future_4063 Nation and Legion Knight
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2025.01.26 07:22 -ushijima-hq Literally the same
Anime: My Terrified Teacher at Ghoul School
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2025.01.26 07:22 Daylightdeed Can anyone make a horror nostalgia game?
Like back rooms with environment?! Liminal spaces idk how it would work but that would be so cool and time consuming but omggggg we need playable. Games that use the full 360 immersive
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2025.01.26 07:22 Potential_Peach5729 Travel from Narita Airport to Tokyo with Surfboard bag
Surfboard bag has length of 2.18m and is too large for typical transport options (train, shuttle bus/van, Yamato), which usually require a maximum length of 2m or a total of around 2.4m across all three dimensions. Any ideas on how to work around this?
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