Whats the best attacker ancestor?
2025.02.02 06:49 CanRevolutionary2197 Whats the best attacker ancestor?
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2025.02.02 06:49 Moonlites777 Let's all do better.
To start off, I'm your typical first gen African American teen born and raised by African parents. Most of the time, I love my parents. Some of the time, I can tolerate them. A lot of the time, though, I have to rant to myself in my head just to keep myself from actually verbally expressing said rant. Boy, that would be hell on Earth.
My dad is actually pretty chill. Like any African parent, he's hard and steadfast about school and education, but he also gives genuinely good advice sometimes. Unlike my mom (I'll get to her later), he lets me actively engage in back-and-forths, debates, and respectful disagreements with him. Even if I don't always get what I want with my dad, I could care less because I really do appreciate that he actually lets me get my thoughts out when I want to voice them, as a mature conversation should go. Never have our conversations turned tense.
Now for my mom. Oh boy.
First of all, I love and respect my mom. She has gone through a lot for me and my siblings, and we can be a pain to put up with sometimes. But that doesn't excuse the toxic behaviors she commonly exhibits.
- Always shifting the goalpost of what "adult" means.
She always only brings up the "You're X years old now, behave like an adult!" talking point when it coincides with what she believes in the moment. When she wants me to clean the house, then I should be a responsible adult. But when I ask if I can finally get a phone, it's "No! wait until you are 18!". When it comes to being the most genius, studious fellow alive, I have to be an adult, but when I want to stay home alone for a few hours it's "No! You are still a small child!" (I'm in my late teens mind you). This annoying flippity flopping is just exhausting. All of these are presumably adult scenarios but somehow some result in the weight of the world being put on my back while others result in me feeling like I have no adult freedom. It got so bad that when I was discussing with my sister where I wanted to go to college, she got fired up and went on a rant about how I will complete college ONLINE and stay with her until I am MARRIED. One, hell no! 2, this is not Africa! That may be how they do it over there but you can't give birth to a child in America and expect them to be fine with practicing African cultural norms that go against the country YOU chose to raise them in! (More on that later)
- Abusing the "no talking back" rule
This one probably makes me want to scream into a pillow the most. It's so bad that I could speak up in the most polite, meek, neutral voice ever, and she would call me rude or say that only rude children talk back, and that I should just shut up when she speaks (Like she knows more than God or something and can never be wrong? Seriously, just because I'm your child doesnt mean I can't be right, holy.) Oh, and don't forget the "I NEVER talked back to my mom back in Africa!" Well for one, my relationship with you isn't going to mirror your relationship with her. Two, respect means that two people are able to voice their thoughts without it getting heated or leading to insults, not that one party has ultimate authority over the other. When you gave birth to me you gave birth to a person with thoughts, not a dog bound to a chain with a nametag that reads "I will obey". And then she brings up the Bible verse about honoring your parents, and in my mind I'm just thinking "Did Jesus not have polite discussions with his parents?" Sometimes she'll blow up when I try to articulate myself like I have just disgraced the entire bloodline and it genuinely makes me want to crash out. This African definition of "respect" is primitive, sick, and stupid, and it's prime time that we let it rot. Respect should be about politely hearing everyone out, not obedience. Thank you dad.
- I can but you can't
The biggest instance of this is that she HATES it when I compare myself to others, but she apparently has free reign to do so the moment she gets ticked off (which is often). If it's not good to compare myself to others then why are you entitled to do the same to me in an angry rant for over an hour? Makes absolutely no sense. Either way, I don't care about what my relatives are apparently doing so much better than me. Good for them. I'm not them, though. Stop bringing them up as if I want to be them.
- The Threats
We've all gotten them. From the usual physical disciplinary threats to the more outlandish ones, they are the African mom go-to. While they amount to nothing most of the time, I HONESTLY think that there are many people who would be worried for me if they heard said threats. I just don't understand how you can look your own flesh and blood in the eyes and describe a vile act that you are going to do to them. It doesn't make sense.
- "I will send you back to Africa!"
This one is the funniest one to me. Because what does she think that will accomplish? Even if she did ACTUALLY send me back there, It'd be just a short time until I'm able to get back to America myself, as an adult. If Africa was such a righteous place, why didn't you raise me there? Whether you like it or not, because of YOUR choice to raise me here, I culturally identify more with America than I likely ever will with the Motherland. Not to say I don't appreciate it, but that's as far as it goes. Seriously, I only speak English, and you want to send me there to live and go to school?
- The obsession with school
I get it. School is important, it is. But it gets to a point where she does way too much. I'm never going to tell her this, but I hate academics. I would rather be my own boss and start my own business than go get a PHD. And honestly, what's wrong with that? Both have the goal of making money, just different ways. African parents need to open their eyes and realize that it's the 21st century. We are in the digital age. There are so, so many ways to make money and even get rich on your own without having to step a foot in college, ESPECIALLY in America. If some TikTokers making more than Neurosurgeons doesn't prove that point to them, I don't know what will. All that to say I'm not going to end up in the slums of the Bronx if I don't get all A's. High school is only 4 years of my life and I'd rather spend it preparing for how I want to live out my future rather than obsessing over every single assignment.
- The anger issues
Wholeheartedly the one I hate the most. Like my dad, I'm more of a passive, quiet type. Not in the shy sense, but the observant thinker type. Not to say that I don't get mad, but when I do, I generally have a really easy time of making it seem like I'm not mad at all. I have to force myself to look mad if I want to convey the emotion visually. That being said, it FLABBERGASTS me that some people are able to get so angry and for such long periods of time. How do African moms not lose steam? I don't know. But having such a pitiful capacity to control yourself is just pathetic, to put it bluntly. A child can hold back longer than some of them can. I'm used to it, though, so I just perceive the ranting as white noise at this point. I can't STAND it when she starts getting verbally upset in public though. You could probably have already guessed by now, I'm more low key. So to have to be looked at by other people and be associated with the yelling, belligerent African lady? Yeah no, I'm good. At LEAST hold in the tantrum until we get to the car. Oh wait, that's impossible. GENUINELY embarrassing.
In summary, let's all learn from out parents' shortcomings and do better. Let's listen to our kids and hear out their input. Let's not threaten them or insult them or compare them to other kids. After all, that's why we post here, and why we shouldn't want to see our kids doing the same. I'll close with this:
"Ripe words will leave ripe seeds that will sprout and spread ripe seeds once again, but rotten words or a strike will will leave nothing more than a rotting fruit silenced by blight."
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2025.02.02 06:49 Financial-Nail6764 Alternative history of 1914 NRP (day 10 year 1917January to June, you can still sign up)
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2025.02.02 06:49 hellranger788 A “realistic” map of night city?
Just curious, is there a lore accurate version of night city that could be used for red? Like, I’ve always thought that night city would be the size of New York City or Tokyo, just a MASSIVE place. Was wondering if any official or fan made maps exist
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2025.02.02 06:49 Ok-Cap-8656 The February Short Story Contest Announcement
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2025.02.02 06:49 Loose-Status-6428 USCE Recommendation
Hi,
I am an old graduate of 2016. I did post-graduation and have work experience in my home country till 2022.
I passed step 1 and step 2(238). I have a green card. I have an outpatient clinic LOR and a hybrid LOR. But I didn't have any academic hospital LOR. Either I don't know how to find it OR the process of getting an observership in any academic hospital is not a piece of cake. I would like to know is it really important to have a LOR from an academic institute. If yes, please tell me how to find it. any good agency recommendation also acceptable?
PS. I can do USCE only in Michigan or Texas
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2025.02.02 06:49 Kyeden_ Woodshed
Hello, I'm new to the game (started playing yesterday). I already have one villager with me and I assigned him to my woodshed. I'm making him produce logs but I don't think he produces them? I check on my chests from time to time (the one on the woodshed) but the only thing that happens to the stored logs is it gets reduced. Can any of you help me with this? Thanks!
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2025.02.02 06:49 Specialist-Link-3972 Those new showers with the lid over the drain SUCKS!
Because your poop and hair goes through the side and get caught in the pores.
You cannot waffle stomp it while its mushy and then eventually you have to remove the lid and are greeted with a dried poop hair wig monster.
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2025.02.02 06:49 withindomain Missing midterm for travel?
I have 2 exams scheduled for Feb 28 and only just realized that today as I booked travel to leave the 27. I can still cancel the flight within 24 hours, do you think they will accommodate me? Is travel a university approved excuse? I know it’s not but it sucks that they are having exams literally the day before spring break.
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2025.02.02 06:49 MeowSlayerrr good tailor shops in kathmandu?
my fellow brothers, i need me some good recommendations on where to get a nice tailored suit. looking for a place that’s not too expensive but still prioritizes good fabric and quality tailoring. any place that comes to mind? please drop their exact locations or their socials. ty! :)
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2025.02.02 06:49 KurosawaShirou PSA [DD2 Switch] Don't use the "VP Boost EX" skill as it is incredibly glitchy. Suo checked 2 heal triggers on turn 2 (he was on 0 damage after checking heal on the G1 turn), and all the heal triggers went back to the deck (see the deck count on turn 5 and then turn 6 during ride phase, both on 43)
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Coming towards the end of 3 now and I'm trying to think if there was ever another character in Wild Arms as a franchise who is as strong as Clive. His damage output with AP Ammo and ViolatoFinest Arts is absolutely insane. Like wth??!
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2025.02.02 06:49 0oodruidoo0 WRT make the hat trick with their Bathurst 12 Hour victory
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2025.02.02 06:49 Longjimmyyy 10 Vacation Destinations You’ll REGRET Visiting! 😱🚫 (Stay Away!)”
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2025.02.02 06:49 onrv 26. Matt Berry - Heard Noises [6.6]
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2025.02.02 06:49 not_handsome-Jack HAHAHA
This is very very very very stupid, and I absolutely hate it. What psychotic asshate made this? It's not useful, it's just annoying.
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2025.02.02 06:49 newbieromanceauthor how to list on Amazon's search?
i published by first ever novella on Amazon a few days ago. when i search the Kindle store by keyword for my genre and 'Publication Date' as sort, my title does not feature.
my title does have the correct category listings.
please advice!
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