AITAH dor expressing my jealousy triggers to my boyfriend?
2025.01.22 05:11 temertrumpwhatacunt AITAH dor expressing my jealousy triggers to my boyfriend?
Am I the asshole (F42) for thinking that I need to express to my boyfriend (M34) what triggers my jealousy? We have an open relationship; I don't believe that kissing or having sex with someone is cheating. I've made mistakes and have cheated in other relationships, and I have trauma from don’t ask don’t tell policy, which can happen to anyone. My ex hid a parallel relationship, and it was the worst thing that ever happened to me.
The thing is, I met my boyfriend when he had a girlfriend of five years, and we were lovers for about 2 months until he ended the relationship with her. Then it took another 4 months for us to start officially dating, and now we've been together for over a year.
We are not non-monogamous. This agreement exists basically so we don't mess up again, not to actively seek out other people or go on dates. And I insist that we should be completely honest with each other if something happens. I'm disciplined about not invading his privacy; I'm totally against looking at conversations on his phone, and I even look away when people, especially him, are typing or looking at social media feeds. I expect the same from him.
However, my traumas and anxiety make me have triggers in situations where he is talking to someone, especially when he refers to someone as a female "friend" who has no name and is never present, like with a friend of his from the neighborhood who watches my stories and sends him pictures of things and places in their conversations, which he also responds to. I have this paranoia that there’s always something hidden.
But back to the point, when something triggers my jealousy, am I the asshole for saying that it makes me feel insecure? I'm not accusatory or anything, but I need some reassurance that my paranoia isn’t real, even if it’s tiresome for him.
He sometimes responds defensively, and sometimes he doesn’t clarify certain events and argues that "he can't say anything to me because of this."
All I ask is that he doesn't be vague. On his birthday (which he doesn’t like to celebrate and didn’t want to see anyone; we celebrated on the days prior), he sent me a message saying that his plan for the night was "that a friend asked him to help with a project, and he’s going to have a meeting with her." Which friend? What project? What kind of meeting, on his birthday?
Am I the jerk for thinking he could be clearer and more transparent about these things, even if it's just to reassure me?
TL;DR Am I the asshole for thinking it's wrong that my boyfriend is vague about unnamed female "friends" who never show up when we're together, never telling me who they are, what kind of relationship he has with them, or what they do together...
One more piece of info: I have the feeling he confuses places we’ve never been together. That he lies and goes out with someone else and then tells me, "We went there, don’t you remember?"
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2025.01.22 05:11 midow911 overuse of epithets in writing
i understand why people do it, especially when writing a scene with multiple characters of the same gender, but it still pisses me off. especially when they’re weirdly specific/don’t match the tone of the scene. just say “he” or use the character’s name i’m begging you.
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2025.01.22 05:11 Bullseye1313 Anyone here work for New York Life?
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2025.01.22 05:11 Sk8ersw I’m sorry, but who is telling Mark his “music” is good?
The music itself is fine, if it were used as generic rock songs in wrestling and football games from the mid-2000s. I could see my WWE Crate a Wrestler walking out to that music.
But the lyrics and vocals are a disgrace to music. I don’t think I’ve ever heard worse vocals and lyrics in my life.
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2025.01.22 05:11 CyRAACS The Importance of Proactive vs. Reactive Risk Management
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2025.01.22 05:11 eigo-bunpou 「英単語解説」off-year-electionの意味について
「英単語解説」off-year-electionの意味について
off electionは、「 （米国で）大統領選挙が行われない年に行われる選挙year 」が定義されています。 読み方はɒɒf* jɪər* ɪˈɪˈlek·ʃən*です。豊富な例文及び運用法を通して「off year election」の意味を学びましょう..
詳細はこちらへアクセスしてください: https://eigo-bunpou.com/off-year-election/
#英語文法 #英文法
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2025.01.22 05:11 Jinzoou Alguien ha podido comprar en TCGplayer desde Venezuela?
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Veo que hay gift cards pero en Bitrefill no venden. Alguien de acá ha podido?
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2025.01.22 05:11 Nora_Venture_ I'm getting this tattoo from Jordan on Saturday
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2025.01.22 05:11 1LivelyLucas Why is it so hard to make it past mid 90s?
People always age so much & die at those ages for some reason
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2025.01.22 05:11 MarodyMv nesecito un consejo?
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2025.01.22 05:11 Visible_Leave4265 Apprentice Tattoo done today by me (IG@coachjave) @legacyironstattoo Greensboro, NC
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2025.01.22 05:11 Pittsburgh_Pete Did no one bring this up yet in this sub?
https://www.usatoday.com/story/life/style/2025/01/20/john-fetterman-tennis-shoes-shorts-inauguration/77838188007/
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And no there are no mistakes in the image
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