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2025.01.22 05:00 LucyAriaRose Everything in my house is turning green
I am NOT the Original Poster. That is mioraa. She posted in CleaningTips
Thanks to u/wickedcherub, u/WeWereAngels and the anonymous person who recommended this to me!
Original Post: December 29, 2024
everything in my house is turning green… at first it was just my cat, and then it became my bedsheets, my feet (which then stained my shoes and socks), my couch, my phone charger, and now my wall. idk what it is. i have no idea where to post this but im wondering if anyone knows how to get rid of it or what it is?? at first i thought mold but now im thinking maybe my laundry detergent pods which are green. but i did a test wash and dry and it didn’t stain my clothes until i wore them for a few hours around the house before it turned green
Image 1: OOP's cats- the one with the most white fur is tinged a greenish-blue color
Image 2: White pillow, also tinged
Image 3: White blanket, tinged with (you guessed it) that greenish-blue
Image 4: OOP's wall with that same color streak
Some of OOP's Comments:
Commenter: Or possibly just buy some new jeans from Old Navy?? lol they stain everything
OOP: hahah me and my husband are not jean-wearers!Commenter: Imagine this is how you discover he’s having an affair with some Old Navy wearing woman, from the cat turning green!
OOP: me seeing if old navy shows up on his bank statements 👀Commenter: Why just one cat vs. Both? I feel like that has to be some kind of clue… does one have something/go somewhere the other doesn’t, that would differentiate what the source might be?
OOP: they all have access to the same things! both indoor as wellCommenter: Maybe only one of them rubs up against the source of the green?
OOP: i gotta find out what it is 😭 Later to a different commenter: no windows are open bc it’s way too cold and i wonder if this one cat is green and not the others because her fur is “oily” due to her breed so it clings on more? my other cat recently started getting a little green on his legs just within the last two daysCommenter: Not sure about the cats, but pics 2-4 look like dye stains/leakage from jeans or another dark fabric.
OOP: the wall pictured is where my bed leans against in which my pillows began staining the same color. the other pic is my blanket. i’m so confused what is staining it since i live in a very boring beige houseCommenter: Are your cats rolling about on freshly mown grass by any chance? Just a thought?
OOP: sadly in the desert i live in, we have no grass 😂 but they’re also indoor only! thanks for the suggestion tho !Commenter: Ahh ok!! Amazing. Could your water have a high copper content?
OOP: i’m wondering this too after someone commented that! i’m going to checkCommenter: Long shot but maybe check under your bed (if you have box springs) or under any furniture, sometimes the material used under furniture will degrade and break up over time and dye things, I had it happen with a chair once and it took me a while to figure out that’s where the color was coming from
OOP: thanks !! flipping my bed now because i noticed most of the green things are in my bedroom and not at all in my spare bedroomCommenter: It wasn’t on the floor right? I am assuming this is dye of some sort from its shade, but mattresses on the floor can have mold issues
OOP: not on the floor! it’s on a bed frame that kind of looks like a box frame but it has velvetCommenter: How long have you lived there, what kind of floors do you have, and what brushes against that wall?
OOP: we’ve lived here since may of this year and it’s a new build. the issue started happening about a month ago. we have carpet in the bedrooms and i think it’s limestone tile in the kitchen/living/hallway. the wall that’s green is where my bed was against, which is also turning green. the blanket was turning green as well. it wasn’t green when we put it on the bed and started using it but over the last two weeks, it’s turned green on the edges, as shown in one of the pictures. so it wasn’t the washer or dryer that made it green (i think).Commenter: Weird but any chance you or anyone in the house is pregnant? I turned things a shade of blue/green when pregnant with my first (toilet seat, office chair, counter by barstool).
OOP: oh my gosh! is that a real thing?? i don’t think i was pregnant or am pregnant now, but i took out my IUD two months ago and should be expecting my period in the next week. i did have my period last month so unless i am very very early pregnant now, no pregnancies in this house so far!Commenter: It’s not pregnancy-specific necessarily. It can be caused by hormonal imbalances. I have PCOS and dye things blue if my hormones are super out of whack.
OOP: oh i see! pcos was one of the things my pcp was suspecting of earlier this year but my images came out normal despite some other symptoms i had (irregular periods, facial hair, acne, issues with weight)Commenter: This happened in my aunt's apartment from a lack of ductwork cleaning/air filters being neglected. It was so annoying and ruined her white carpet.
OOP: i just checked the filters of my air purifiers and they were green!More cat tax:
haha so far i’ve mopped my entire floor, gave my kitty a bath (which took out most of the green) and changed my bedsheet back to my old beige ones. i got someone coming in to check the water and AC on tuesday but im at least eliminating the factor that something may have been tracked onto the floor or that my bedsheets may have caused some bleeding. i will continue to monitor my cats greenness 😂Another comment later:
i did an extreme deep clean but i couldn’t find anything. i did notice that my guest bedroom doesn’t have any staining, but most of the staining is in this bedroom which includes my charger. but the edge of my couch cushions turned green, but i’m assuming it’s because our skin turned green and we sat on the couch. so i do suspect the source is from my room. nevertheless i cleaned my floors and counters and washed my couch covers and bedsheets and replaced them all with my old ones before everything turned green to see if maybe it was my new bedsheets!Intermission Post: December 31, 2024 (2 days later)
OOP: weirdly enough i think i’m okay. i don’t think i was ever really fully emotionally checked back in since the last time so i think this time hurt a bit less. sorry i couldn’t figure out the source of the green! but my cat is definitely a lot whiter now that we’ve spent time at my parents hahaCommenter: Wow, the twist I did not expect! On the cleaning sub no less! I am so sorry for your situation OP, but also, this is an insane update. The drama of it all!
OOP: i know 😭 i honestly feel bad for bringing the drama on the cleaning subCommenter: No, don't feel bad! You didn't owe us this update at all but you posted it and I hope writing it out is a step towards healing for you, truly! It also provided entertainment to us, so there's value there too. I hope you and your kitty are never greened again!
OOP: i’m in the process of moving back into the home but i haven’t slept there yet or brought my kitty with me. i hope that when we do move back, we can determine its the bedsheets that did it! or maybe even the jeans that hopefully won’t ever be in contact in my home again. i can’t believe my cat turning green turned out to be this crazy storyCommenter: I do not like green eggs and ham, or your husband. I hope you and your possibly radioactive cat are doing okay!
OOP: we’re doing just fine! (my radioactive cat and me - not my husband. he’s doing horribly 🤭)Commenter: Aww, I’m so sorry, friend. At least now you know and you can stop wasting your life with this clown.
OOP: thank you!! the worst part is honestly the legal battle now 😅 i think i’ve driven myself so insane over the suspicions that this whole thing has been more of a relief, but who knows, maybe once i get back to my home that’ll be half empty, ill have the moment to let it all crash on me and that’s okay tooOOP responds back to the OG commenter that said: "Imagine this is how you discover he’s having an affair with some Old Navy wearing woman, from the cat turning green!"
OOP: haha i hate to break it to you but… you were a lil right on the nose w this comment 😅Commenter: hang in there, OP. sorry you’re goin through all of this. hugs. 🥺🩷 return those sheets if you can. if not, trash them or maybe donate them somewhere but with a note saying you’re not sure if they were turning stuff in your house green via dye transfer so someone else doesn’t go crazy if the sheets were the culprit.
OOP: oh! i’m going to return them to amazon (thank goodness for the extended holiday return dates) and i mentioned it possibly turned my house green - though i can’t confirm fully that it was the cause. i didn’t really like those bed sheets anyway! they were much too bold for me and my beige house 😂 it was actually quite impressive how many photos she had of herself in jeans. dark denim, light denim, ripped, skinny, flared, mom jeans! you name it. i don’t think i’ve worn jeans since i was 12 and that was because it was a christmas present from an aunt i see once a year lol. no matter how cold it is, i couldn’t ever think about trapping my legs in jeans lol i don’t mind the jokes! i’m having a grand time. in fact, i apologize for seeming totally okay after all this. i’ll admit that i was a mess the first time around so i guess this time, i was more just disappointed but i think i wasn’t ever the same after the first time. maybe less in love so there wasn’t much to lose this time. i do expect there will be a day where i might fall apart and maybe that’s when ill sleep in my house again but maybe it’ll also feel great because now ill actually have room to spread my legs since i used to share the bed with my husband and my many cats. anyway thanks for reading all of this! i know both the og post, the update, and this reply is super long but thank you anyway for keeping my in your thoughts :)Commenter: So did you dump him or you took a break?
OOP: he has been served papers !The future:
i’m doing ok! i’m supposed to come back to my house this coming monday and he should be either fully or mostly moved out. everything’s been smooth so far. he did not deny the affair nor said mean things or gaslight. he didn’t beg for another chance either. he just asked me what i wanted and i said i wanted him to go back to his parents house and we’ll talk about the legal stuff in the near future. i feel a bit numb i suppose. i strangely feel a bit guilty for not having as much heartbreak or a betrayed feeling. some days i convinced myself that i had some fault in our broken marriage because maybe i wasn’t emotionally there as well but i know that i have no responsibility for his choicesEditor's note: Marked as concluded because OOP figured out the cause of the green.
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2025.01.22 05:00 Choice_Evidence1983 AITAH for leaving a family dinner early because my MIL told people I was r*ped?
I am NOT OOP, OOP is u/Upbeat_Analyst4475
Originally posted to AITAH
AITAH for leaving a family dinner early because my MIL told people I was r*ped?
Thanks to u/queenlegolas & u/soayherder for suggesting this BoRU
Trigger Warnings: mentions of sexual assault and violence, emotional abuse and manipulation, controlling behavior
(TW MENTION OF SEXUAL ASSAULT) I’ve never used reddit before, my situation happened a couple days ago and i saw a tiktok on people reading from it and saw the comments and how they give advice so I thought I’d try it out. (Bare with me with knowing all the terminology)
I’m 26 and my hubby is 27, we’ve been together since we were 16 17. Early on I loved his mother, she was the sweetest woman ever. She welcomed me in with open arms and always made good company. Of course like every one she had her moments, like getting a little too mad a cashier not understanding her needs, or making a joke that made people a little uncomfortable. But everyone always brushed it off because she’s just an amazing person.
At the age of 23-24 me and my husband got engaged and I don’t know how to explain it but it’s like his mothers persona just flipped, like there was a switch on the back of her head. When we told her we were engaged she got pale and looked like we had told her someone had died. Hubby got weirded out like this and called her out on it, she just said she had to go and we didn’t hear from her for about 3 weeks. (We had lunch together often as family means alot to me and my husband) so when we got stood up for our lunch date we worried. Maybe my husband came off a little harsh, so we went to check on her. Hubbys dad let us in, but had to talk to us first. He had began to tell us that she was shaken up by the proposal saying it “wasn’t how things were meant to be” Hearing this, my husband got mad at his mother implying that she had always thought of their relationship as temporary. He went to their room with me and his father following behind, we had found her coddled up with baby pictures of him crying. This was really disturbing for me and I excused myself. I was extremely confused and hurt that my soon to be mother in law thought of our relationship like that. My father in law consoled me and said “for whatever it’s worth, I believe there is a little string bonding you and my son together, don’t listen to her.” This stuck with me and made me cry, I still remember it to this day.
My MIL proceeded to text me that I had taken away her baby boy, that no one could replace the love they share. Yes I know a mother’s love isn’t replaceable but, in my opinion, a mother and wife should not be in the same category to compete with eachother. The love they show is completely different, and the love that’s given to them is completely different too. She goes onto tell me that it was just meant to be him and her against the world (she has 3 other children) I didn’t respond because it just weirds me out to think if she always felt this way.
Back when I was a little girl, a parent of a child I was friends with raped and tortured me (I use torture lightly, he burnt my legs and privates and dug into my skin with the heated up head of the lighter.) My hubby knew this very early on, and often had to take a few hits because I had panic attacks, especially when we became intimate. He went out of his way to make sure I was loved and appreciated, he kiss all the parts of my body, including my scars. He was extremely protective, in a way where he only worried when something happened for him to be. He took hits from men for me and shouted at whoever he needed to, to say I am in love with this man is an understatement.
My MIL knew what happened to me and cried when we told her. Fast forward a bit, some space and talks later his mother “tolerated” me, the sting that comes with this relationship change isn’t describable. We were attending a family dinner, where we planned on announcing a pregnancy. We had cooked words into the food saying who each person was going to be Eg: you’re my auntie!
Most caught on, my little niece caught on first. And then my MIL. She became silent which we thought was for the better honestly. After we ate and were just talking, she chimed in asking “Is it really my son’s baby” before I could say excuse my husband yelled it instead. My MIL says that due to me letting another man touch me, how is she sure I wasn’t weak enough to let it happen again. While my husband was arguing with her I just got up and left. My husband ran after me cussing his mother out, my FIL left too. People soon started saying they had to go aswell as it was getting late, it was 6:30. I later got a message from my mother in law getting mad at me for leaving and embarrassing her.
I don’t was think I was wrong for what I did but I am starting to think maybe I should have just stayed and left more appropriately. AITAH?
EDIT because I can’t keep up with all the lovely comments. Me and our baby are no contact and she won’t see her grandchild. But my husband is keeping her number (muted) because we think having some way of communicating so better. I would never leave my husband if he does try to communicate, he’s been with me through a world of hurt. This is a world of hurt for him, I’d never leave him. Just know that if you get an upvote on a comment, it was probably me. Xx
I can’t thank you all enough, I don’t really know where to post an update if there is one but I’m sure I’ll figure it out maybe 😭
Edit: I’m sure I’ll have an update at some time, if someone could comment how is make an update that would be lovely because I have no idea how to use this app 😅 UPDATE IS POSTED
AITAH has no consensus bot, OOP was NTA
Relevant Comments
Commenter 1: If your husband doesn’t cut his mother off completely and permanently. You need to cut him off completely and permanently.
OOP: I wouldn’t go that far, he has been with me through thick and thin. I wouldn’t leave him if he chose not to cut her off, we have talked about how contact would be low but I would never want them to not have a relationship. I’d like to give her a chance because as I stated family is so important to us. But he has said he would do whatever he needs to do to make me feel safe.
Commenter 2: You’re NTA she is. I’m sorry she has treated you so disrespectfully. I’m glad your husband & FIL have supported you. A mother’s love is one thing but she should not be comparing it to the love between a man & a woman. She should NOT be trying to shame you (esp in public) for SA. I would steer clear of her.
OOP: I have avoided her as much as possible, I haven’t blacked her number as I didn’t want to give her some sort of leverage for treating me like this. I’ve just muted and messages so I don’t even know if she does
Commenter 3: Im sorry and honestly she shouldn't be near your child and you need to limit your interactions with her. Talk to your husband about it
OOP: We have, it was the first thing I said when we got in the car that I’m not letting a ride nutcase around my baby, and he immediately agreed
Commenter 4: Sounds like she needs a serious mental health intervention. Why hasn’t your husband’s family done anything about that yet? NTA obviously
OOP: It’s still fairly new and I think it’s more just people are shocked, I have gotten messages apologising for her behaviour tho.
OOP should go low contact with her FIL because he had been failing her husband and not getting his wife help
OOP: To defend my FIL because he’s amazing, she was getting better and paying for those kind of things gets really expensive and he saw change in her behaviour, hence why we were comfortable going to a dinner with them. He did mention about “getting her fixed” so I hope she has help soon.
OOP explained how her MIL's relationships are with her other children (Husband's siblings)
OOP: She’s more calm with them. They definitely know my husband is the favourite and I know it must of hurt them a lot. My husband did apologise early in our teen years for never seeing it. Her other children don’t like her that much so yeah it’s more neutral and calm
Update: January 15, 2025 (five days later)
(TW SEXUAL ASSAULT MENTION) Hiiii, first i want to thank everyone so much for all the amazing and sweet comments. Quick edit, this update was written over the course of a couple days. So for example I said my husband kept her number but then I said she was blocked. I’m so sorry for any confusion that this causes.
If you’ve kept up with my edits or replies on my original post, you’ll know that I was low contact with my MIL. I’ve now gone full no contact, my hubby keeps her number (muted) just in case something happens. My baby will never meet her grandma unless a professional tells me that she won’t act like that anymore. I know some of you think I should divorce my husband if he doesn’t go full NC. Respectfully that’s some advice I won’t listen to. He has been a through so much with me and to leave because he has to make a hard decision isn’t what I agree with. We both think that keeping some way of communicating is what’s best. Doesn’t mean we are going to talk to her at all. Please don’t comment “that’s stupid” or “you’re going to get a world of hurt” it’s purely for emergency purposes. His parents are getting old, we’ve had to come to terms with needing to keep her number incase something happens. To clear this up too, my FIL never took her somewhere at the beginning because she had gotten better, hence why we went to a dinner with her in the first place. Now he is looking into people to help MIL. And I completely understand why he wouldn’t just drop and divorce her, this is real life and he made a promise to her to never leave when things got rocky. He may be blind and overly hopeful, but he is a man of his word.
Also all the comments saying what you would’ve done to my MIL made me and my husband laugh a lot so thank you so much! Please know I saw ALL the comments and I loved them all.
Now for the real update, so I had fully blocked my MIL number and she didn’t appreciate this at all. It started off with messages to my husband about it, then letters, home visits and then a rock through our window. We have no evidence that it was her but we have our suspicions. My FIL hired a professional to talk to my MIL and she didn’t agree at first, then was willing when the therapist said she wouldn’t see her son or his baby ever. When she said this my FIL proceeded to yell that she has no place in suggesting his wife might see her son and child again without consulting us. He especially got mad that I wasn’t included in this threat of no contact. He fired her on the spot. (We were on call with my FIL to heat how things went)
We’ve found someone else that understands our position and wants to help give answers to my MIL’s family. Her first session went okay, she isn’t keen on the therapist idea but I think she just remembers what was said to her a couple days ago. She’s been calling my husband and leaving voicemails crying, saying I’m a witch for taking him away from her, and that this isn’t how it was supposed to go. We send every voicemail to her therapist and she’s given us some possible reasonings like bipolar disorder, borderline personality disorder or schizophrenia.
We’ve continued to get letters in the mail. They differ from crying like paragraphs, to the way she plans on getting her son back (a lot were very violent to me and my baby) my hubby isn’t standing for this anymore so we’re going to be moving soon and my husband has fully blocked her. This has been really hard on my husband because he’s having to grieve someone who’s gone, yet still alive.
I’ll update more if anything happens and how the move goes.
Relevant Comments
OOP and her husband should consider about security cameras for the house and document everything
OOP: I’ll bring this up with my husband as soon as he gets home. Thank you x
Is OOP's husband the youngest of his siblings?
OOP: 1 other boy and 2 other girls. He is the youngest.
Commenter 1: She still may need a medical exam with neurological focus work up. I say this not as her provider but as a medical professional, so this is just a general suggestion ANYONE can make.
OOP: Fair, I think we were thinking more on a mental point but we will definitely take her to a doctor. Thank you!
Commenter 2: Why didn't the lot of you get her assessed years ago? When your first post time-jumped I was floored. It's like you opened the door to find the room on fire and decided to contain it with misting spray bottles and some rubber mats, for years, then got surprised each and every time it flared up into the hall.
The woman has been on fire this entire time. You don't keep calm and carry on with rapid and destructive behavioral changes.
OOP: That’s just incorrect, I’ve stated multiple times, when we found her crying with my husband’s baby photos, we were planning on her getting help, but she got better on her own. Hence why we were comfortable going to a dinner with her. We thought, and she did too, that this random outburst was just her realising that her son was grown. We didn’t get help because she got better, now it’s happening again and we are because it clearly wasn’t what we thought.
Commenter 3: Wait did her first therapist say it was you guys at fault? I'm glad she is getting the help and she has her husband to support her through it, it also makes it a buffer so she hopefully won't go to a more violent behaviour pattern. But if you guys are in contact with him just make sure she isn't.
I seen alot of great advice in the comments, I just want to say how strong you and your husband are and I wish you all the good will and love in your lives going forward. Even through its shit and hard it should be worth it in the end ❤️
Edit: I haven't seen this said but, in Australia and you are married, you are entitled to use either last name. Maybe request that your chosen name be used isn't of your legal in some or all aspects so you are kept safe. I kept my last name when married as I didn't wish to go through all the hoops to change everything. But I can still set up things with my husbands last name if I so wish,and go to a court house to change it if I was in true danger
OOP: Her previous therapist basically gave her a promised ultimatum. Saying that if she goes to therapy, she will see her son and grandchild. Not only is this super unprofessional, it’s also 10x worse when she doesn’t consult us about this. What she had said, we would never go through with. So we’d just have an even angrier person. And no sadly, we live in Canada. I was born in Australia and I miss it so much. Not hating on Canada, just love Australia too much 😅
Commenter 4: I must be mistaken. I thought you said your father in law was there, and then reported what happened to you and your husband over the phone. You actually heard her say she wouldn't be able to see her son or grandchild? If so, that's very much out of line for a counselor to say.
Perhaps I just interpreted what you said as her trying to persuade her to get help as a "If you don't do this, this COULD be the consequences." I can't believe (I mean I do believe, I'm not calling you a liar) a therapist would say something that out of line right from the get go.
OOP: Yep me and my husband listen over the phone during her house visits. So yes we did hear her and our FIL say she’s out of line. It could come across as persuasion but, just like how a doctor can’t promise that you’ll be okay, any type of mental health care worker can’t promise/ give an ultimatum for something like that. It makes my MIL believe that just attending therapy means she will get back her baby boy, and when we clearly won’t do that, we will just have an angry MIL again. And we’re trying to get her to not want to hurt me so, me not being included in this ultimatum was also very unprofessional in the sense that we’re trying to get her help because she seems to hate my guts, but her CS worker is actively only including the people she doesn’t have a problem with. (I have no idea if that makes sense)
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