34 [M4F] Asheville NC / Online / Anywhere - Looking for someone rare, like a shiny Pokémon

2025.01.22 23:14 Nicholas-Dimes 34 [M4F] Asheville NC / Online / Anywhere - Looking for someone rare, like a shiny Pokémon

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Greetings stranger,
I find myself once again, reaching out into the world in search of a meaningful, lasting connection.
I'll start with the basics: Originally from FL, I've been a NC resident since 2016, living in Asheville since 2020. Western NC has been a second home my entire life, however. I'm a recent graduate with my MS in nature-based Experiential Education. I am single, never married, no kids, no criminal history, no history with alcohol or drug abuse, non-smoker (except for the occasional cigar on special occasions) (420 friendly with moderation), and all my life I've stayed relatively fit and healthy. I'm a passionate Aries, if you're into that stuff. I'd like to believe I've got my life pretty well put together. I prefer monogamy but have some experience with non-monogamy. My greatest passions in life have been musical performance throughout my youth, and long-distance backpacking as an adult. In addition to these major interests, I also enjoy active pursuits such as weight lifting, tennis, biking, skating, ping-pong, pool, disc-golf, regular golf, occasional running, swimming, etc. Other hobbies include reading & writing, painting, pc games, photography (mostly nature), D&D, Texas Hold'em, naturalist studies, traveling, graphic novels, movies, dive bars, meeting weird & interesting people, and science. I'm very left-leaning but have always been a critical thinker, capable of making my own judgements about the world. My undergrad BA is in Sociology, with major focuses on Criminology, Environmental Sociology, World Religions, DEI initiatives, and social Psychology. I guess you could say I'm pretty woke. I believe in community/grassroots activism, and have campaigned for a couple of different democratic primary candidates on the state level in FL & NC, plus I have worked as a fundraiser for progressive non-profit organizations. I love and care for all animals, but when it comes to pets, I highly prefer cats. Dogs are OK, I just never grew up with any so it's typically an adjustment for me, but not a deal-breaker. Definitely have a harder time with anxious/high-energy dogs. As for my personality, I'm an ambivert which means I love connecting with other people, and I can easily be the life of the party when I'm somewhere I'm comfortable, but I also need a lot of quiet time and solitude to re-charge. Too much solitude is bad for me. Also, I've been a silly goofball my entire life. Life is meaningless for me if I'm ever unable to make people laugh. I live for laughter. You'll know I'm super comfortable when I can be silly and weird around you without holding back.
OK, I've covered a lot of the pros, I guess if I had to list some cons, one would be that I have an anxiety disorder that I typically keep very well under control, but certain stress triggers can bring it out. I go to therapy when I know I'm having a hard time. I'm very sexually experienced, but I also believe in safe sex and get tested regularly. I've just spent a lot of my life single, with a handful of committed relationships sprinkled in. This means that I'm super kinky, but would never require a partner to match all my kinks. It's just more fun when they do. I've found that being really kinky and adventurous in the bedroom can be intimidating for someone less experienced or insecure. I'm also a highly independent only-child, so it's sometimes a challenge for me to want to commit to someone unless they seem ideal. I'm actually quite quick to want commitment with someone who has their shit together. I've had an agonizingly long history of dating women who are rife with red flags such as addictions/cheating/insecure/anti-social/generally unkind to everyone or themselves/unresolved trauma or mental health issues/etc. Please, please, please, if you have chronic issues with any of these things and aren't actively working on bettering yourself, don't bother reaching out. I'm looking for someone who has *most* of their life together. I understand that nobody's perfect. Perfection is not what I'm seeking. In fact, I have a huge heart, with lots of love to give to the right person, and it's my deep empathy that has often led me to pursue these unhealthy relationships with women who are emotionally unavailable. I'm not usually one for new year's resolutions but perhaps this needs to be the year where I finally stop settling for the bare minimum. I need someone like myself, healthy and calm, with a thick skin, and able to give love back.
Sorry, the end of 2024 was a little rough on me. But my heart is still open, don't worry.
If you still aren't certain of the kind of person I'm looking for, let me make it simple with these characteristics:
Funny, kind, intelligent, careful, loves cats, nerdy with passions, interests and hobbies, optimistic, has worked on themselves, is a great communicator, is comfortable being single and waiting for the right person, doesn't have problems with consuming things like drugs/alcohol/nicotine/overeating, doesn't have psycho exes lingering in their lives, doesn't have problems with serial cheating, knows her self-worth, is able to set realistic healthy boundaries, exercises and stays in decent shape, liberal ideologies, cares about people and the planet, monogamous, or at least monogamish* Bonus points for outdoorsy (but not required) and kink-friendly.
I know this list seems sort of impossible for some people... so I'm going to be gracious enough to say that nobody needs to match EVERYTHING here, but if I'm being real to myself, the more points that align here, the better the potential match.
Last thing I'll say is that while I love the area that I'm currently living in, I do not currently have the kind of job I see myself in for the next ten years, so I'm open to meeting someone out-of-state and seeing if a strong connection can be formed, and I'd see if I can find my next dream job elsewhere. WNC post-hurricane (and even pre-hurricane) has been a difficult place to find a long-term job. Plus, I'm still kinda fresh out of grad school, so I'm doing my best. ALSO - we've just entered a new level of political dystopia here in the states, so I'm also more or less open to the idea of connecting with someone internationally.
If you made it through all this, congrats! You're already pretty special. Go ahead and shoot your shot. Please included a pic as I've been brave enough to include three up-front. Tell me as much about yourself as you feel is appropriate.
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2025.01.22 23:14 Evan55 Early TOTY Reviews

If you were lucky enough to already have packed or purchased a TOTY, drop your review down below. Especially curious if a TOTY exceeded your expectations or underperformed.
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2025.01.22 23:14 junerbjones At what point is continued care too much?

my dog originally had surgery for a foreign body on the 5th (he ate a plastic grocery bag) and did not recover well. he ended up having ileus, and has not recovered from that quickly at all. he came home from surgery on the 6th. went back the 11th and was hospitalized until the 16th because of ileus. he came home on five meds, and ate normally for two days and then went back to the vet on the 20th because he never stopped 'urping' (regurgitation in burp form, it comes up and he swallows it back down) which caused him to aspirate, and caused esophagitis so he stopped eating. he has been hospitalized the last two nights for mild aspirational pneumonia and because he wont eat (which means i can't give him oral antibiotics for pneumonia because they'll make him nauseous making the urping worse, which would make the esophagitis worse) i cant treat him at home until his pneumonia goes away or he starts eating. My vet suggested i move him to a different emergency vet with an internal medicine doctor on staff because she thinks theres something more going on, but noted that maybe he just needs more time to heal. I decided to leave him where he is another night to wait to see if he improves (i might go to the internal medicine tomorrow).
If he goes to the internal medicine vet it would be more testing and a possibility but not guarantee of figuring out whats going on. Could be medications for the rest of his life, we don't know.
I have already spent over $12,000, and am looking at another 3-4 grand for testing from the internal medicine doctor. I don't know beyond that, but likely more for treatments if they figure out whats wrong. I have been taking work off and working from home for the last three weeks. I have roughly $6500 left, unless i open another credit card. I have already used my credit card and care credit balances, and all my savings.
I am so completely torn up inside. I'm afraid i'll regret any decision forever. He was acting more like normal the day i had to take him back in (besides the coughing and urping) and had even started jumping up to see me when I got home. I know I do not want him to go through any more surgeries or be put under more anesthesia for procedures. I do not want him to go through more discomfort and anxiety unless its certain he'll get better (which is why i chose not to move him to the other vet, because that would be a whole new set of doctors and techs and a new environment). But theres this part of me saying i've already come this far, and am i really going to have done so much and paid so much to end up without my pup? at what point does continued care become unfair to him? how am i supposed to make all these decisions when we don't even know what's really wrong with him, and how is it that just him not eating can push things into needing to be hospitalized? again?? I feel like giving up is failing him, like theres health and wellness right around the corner and i'd be cutting it off right before the finish line.
I feel unqualified and lost and scared. And i cannot believe that this decision is entirely mine. Any advice is appreciated.
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I now have to start reading you from the bottom up. You have changed my way of reading because of your endless pile of crap filler that is packed into everything on the internet these days.
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Oh you want some news? Well let me tell you my thoughts on everything related, and not related, to the one piece of info you need before I get to it.
Hey doesn't my title look enticing? Surprise! There is actually nothing in the 5000 words you are about to read that have anything to do with it, gotcha!
I miss newspapers, because at least they didn't want to spend money on ink and paper so they limited the crap to only what was necessary. Now days I read from the bottom up, at least that way you can sift though the crap and get to the point.
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My top guess would be Seattle. But what is yours?
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2025.01.22 23:14 Ikbeneennederlander 29/Male/Dutch. Let’s chat ✨tell me about your day ✨

Heyaaa!
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Some of the games I play are Grounded, Phasmophobia, Fortnite, Subnautica.
I really love the music genres Hard Techno and Hardcore/Uptempo.
You can chat with me for long or short term, I don’t mind.
I'm 6'9.
I hope you have an amazing day ✨
Tell me more about yourself.
I prefer the age of 25-35.
If you want to chat, hit me up.
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2025.01.22 23:14 xaksor Wanted to share my collection! Recently got back into lego.

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2025.01.22 23:14 ShutUpMorrisseyffs Adopting a lurcher!

Heyo.
This is bananas but - I am adopting a lurcher very soon! He's a rescue. Totally lovely temperament. He's around 4.
I have loads to learn, but one question:
I am planning on him sleeping in the room opposite my bedroom. With the door open and my bedroom door ajar. I do not want him sleeping in my bed. He can get on the furniture, but I draw the line at beds.
Should I crate him or would he stay sleeping in the room on his own? I like the idea of him coming in to let me know if he needs to go outside.
Any tips? He's very untrained (he may have been previously owned by travellers) but seems to learn fast with treats.
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As the title suggests I’m looking for a gen 3 to put into my aw11 I’m not looking to break the bank on a gen 4 and I’m in the dmv area so the closer the better. I’d anyone has any leads that’ll be great you guys rock
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An analysis of two years of episodes by nine prominent podcasters shows how they became mainstream sources for young men and rallied support for Trump's agenda (Bloomberg)

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I like to keep certain subjects categorized. For example, I have a "Random" chat for quick questions and a "Software" tab for help with programs. However, I don’t like how the app automatically opens a new window for typing when I start it. I’d love the option to choose which chat opens by default.
Secondly, why does every voice interaction with GPT create a new chat? By the end of the day, I end up with transcripts about the same topic split into 20 different chats. It would be much more organized if voice interactions could continue in the same thread instead of creating separate ones.
We need a more userfriendly and customizable app across the board.
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2025.01.22 23:14 vandelay8 Should have bought official doge

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2025.01.22 23:14 featherflyxx What is the difference between "Fidelity® U.S. Large Cap Strategy" and "Fidelity® U.S. Large Cap Index Strategy" ?

What is the difference between these two Fidelity managed account strategies besides the fees?
Fidelity® U.S. Large Cap Strategy (.30% – 0.70%)
https://www.fidelity.com/go/dsk-sma/large-cap
Fidelity® U.S. Large Cap Index Strategy (.20%–0.40%)
https://www.fidelity.com/go/dsk-sma/large-cap-index
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2025.01.22 23:14 hn9605 How being a Lease guarantor impact mortgage application

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