This week on house hunters
2025.01.24 21:12 bigherocrypto This week on house hunters
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2025.01.24 21:12 Emotional_Slice_9622 Is this abuse? Is this enough to leave?
Two months ago, my spouse and I were arguing (very frequent as of late), and it was escalating to raised voices (also frequent), and he kept cutting me off / interrupting me / talking over me (been an issue for years). This is an explicitly-stated boundary of mine, and when it escalates to that point, it almost always triggers my anxiety, I experience flooding/overwhelm/chest tightness, so I try to remove myself from the conversation.
When it got to this point, I said that I was ending this conversation, and I walked to the bedroom and closed the door. I then heard him start coming for the bedroom and I quickly ran to the interior bathroom and closed and locked the door.
He started knocking and jiggling the handle and telling me to come out, continuing on with what he was saying in the other room, etc. I told him to leave me alone / go away. He continued on and I could feel the panic rising, so I decided to turn on the water in the tub as white noise to calm myself down. This only made him more upset and then started yelling at me to turn the water off.
I was repeatedly saying "LEAVE ME ALONE. LEAVE ME ALONE. LEAVE ME ALONE." and I told him to get away from the door because this was starting to get dangerous (for me). He did not cease.
At this point, I was fully in fight or flight and so I unlocked the door and swung it open as quickly as I could and slipped out and ran past him to the front door, trying to grab my shoes and phone and wallet. He started coming towards me, and I yelled at him to get back and stay away from me. He was still talking, but honestly at that point, I do not know what he was even saying but I kept backing up and and he kept coming towards me. After moving back a few more steps, I put up my hand in a stop signal and yelled GET THE FUCK AWAY FROM ME. He started to take another step towards me, so I ran to the back door, opened the glass door, and as I was opening the sliding door, he grabbed me with so much force from behind, that we both fell through the screen door, taking it down with us and landing on top of it.
I wriggled myself free and grabbed my shit and bolted through the front door. I was in so much shock and panic that I walked for about 3-4 miles and then broke down and called the DV hotline for support, which was seriously my lifeline in that moment.
I finally calmed down and came back home. I came in and sat down and didn't say anything. He came over and said "sorry that happened." and proceeded to go on a 15 minute diatribe and I again, don't even remember what he said. I was still in so much mental pain and discomfort.
After a few days of not talking, I finally broke down in tears begging him to comfort me and telling him how much that hurt me. He expressed some remorse, but dismissed or minimized or deflected on some critical details of what happened like "well, you're always running away from me". Or when I called it 'tackling', he said that it was just grabbing, that I was twisting it to bolster my argument. Or that he was just standing beside me and grabbed me and I fell down. Or that he was just trying to make sure I wasn't wasting water and that's why he was so upset. Or trying to prevent me from running out and hurting myself.
We previously went through several months of couples therapy (at my request), and the therapist (and myself) have told him numerous times that if I walk away or ask to end the conversation in a situation like that, he has to respect that. It hasn't really escalated to something so intensely physical like this, and two months on, I'm still having a lot of a mental anguish about the situation and it's pretty much killed all physical intimacy and the feeling of safety.
For additional context, he has had a history of blocking me from exits (on the other side of this, I feel awful for always running away in intense arguments or even arguments where he's being really avoidant and I'm feeling abandoned - it was a coping mechanism I picked up from my mom in childhood when she faced my father's rage/indifference), not respecting my boundaries, antagonizing me in panic/anxiety attacks (like continuing to pester me or say my name over and over when I'm in a non-verbal freeze state). In the early stages of our relationship, he also used to grab my hands or arms to move me places or get me to walk across the street / parking lot. It was something I had to beg over and over for him to stop because it made me so uncomfortable.
I've talked to two therapists about this (my individual therapist and our couples therapist - in an individual session). They have both validated how I've felt, but they have not used the term abuse. They have said that it's inappropriate / unacceptable. But I'm struggling so much to know what to do. I've always said that if it escalated to actual abuse, I would leave. But I feel so connected to him and love him deeply. We've known each other since childhood, are best friends, been married for nearly 15 years, have so much in common. On the other side of this, there have been a lot of things in the relationship that have eroded my trust + safety with him.
Is this abuse? Is it enough to leave?
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2025.01.24 21:12 DoNotHaveAnyFriends Test
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2025.01.24 21:12 entlawyerbot Blind Item #11
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2025.01.24 21:12 highdesk306 I had success at an antique mall today..
I was talking to my friend and just said in passing that I wanted a Parker Vacumatic to go with my ad from the 30s. Today, I found one. I’m looking for a darrkkkkkk green to go into it. Very open to suggestions.
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2025.01.24 21:12 Reuben259 Neprobojan
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2025.01.24 21:12 DayroneGreen The duality of reddit
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2025.01.24 21:12 calh9471 Teeter totter rock
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2025.01.24 21:12 entlawyerbot Blind Item #10
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2025.01.24 21:12 olalof Bezos just gave $100 million to actress Eva Longoria and the retired admiral who oversaw Osama bin Laden's capture to use as they see fit
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2025.01.24 21:12 DeltaSaysStuff A failing relationship (left is my sona in their teens and the right is their now ex girlfriend)
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2025.01.24 21:12 Safe_Caterpillar8339 Klara vs. Fake Nurse [Sentinelle]
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2025.01.24 21:12 entlawyerbot Blind Item #9
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2025.01.24 21:12 BoringStress1965 how do I get my money back?
I'm sobbing as I'm typing this because I'm soo distressed. i boaught a dress but changed my mind and dont want it anymore. the order hasnt been shipped and probably hasnt been made yet. as soon as i changed my mind, i emailed to cancel the order but the company is now ignoring me and the item still hasn't been sent. anytime I ask to cancel my order, I get a passive reply along the lines of "thanks for your patience. your order will be sent out soon" I emailed customer service, called by bank, and even emailed PayPal cuz that was the platform for the transfer. ive sent about 16 emails emphasising how i want to cancel the order. i have no idea what to do. I'm also on a tight time budget. I need my money back by February. my bank says they can't cancel the order and only the merchant can. but the merchant doesn't want to cancel the order.
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2025.01.24 21:12 whoamihere Shooting a concert with Portra 800 using Nikon FE 50mm with this lighting… suggestions?
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2025.01.24 21:12 Plastic-Doughnut-615 Tennessee Emails
People on SDN are saying they got their OOS emails about 5 min ago. I never got anything, anyone else?? Not sure what to do
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2025.01.24 21:12 entlawyerbot Blind Items Revealed #5
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2025.01.24 21:12 garhdo Today's Featured Episode - Going back and looking at a video game franchise that I think has plenty of story for a fantastic new streaming adaptation which would allow all its characters and plots time to breathe, and that franchise is Mortal Kombat!
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2025.01.24 21:12 entlawyerbot Four For Friday - Random Hookups You Forgot Or Didn't Know
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2025.01.24 21:12 TruthImaginary4459 8 wks old kitten question
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2025.01.24 21:12 Aik3Ys YanSim Rewrite
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2025.01.24 21:12 Zealousideal-Kale158 Any advice
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2025.01.24 21:12 juxlear Dialga from Hawai’i! Add 434900895271 to join, starting in ~5 minutes!
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2025.01.24 21:12 Psychological_You581 Wind-Up Bird Chronicle book 3 correct reading order.
First time reading wind up bird and I'm a little confused on how to read book 3. I know that some chapters were taken out of the English translation for book 2 and I found a document which contains them, but from what im aware there are missing chapters form book 3 as well as some chapters being switched around.
I have the missing chapters from book 3 so i'll read them where recommended but does it make a big difference reading the switched chapters in the correct order or is it fine as it is in the english translation?
I really am enjoying the book and if there is an edition where it's translated with the original Japanese structure i'd love to find it!
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