Statements Made by Social Worker Supervisor Seem Highly Unprofessional and Borderline Inappropriate. Is it Just Me? Typical Remarks and Perfectly Appropriate for an Adoption Homestudy? Or is this Lady Blowing Anyone Else's Mind?
2025.01.24 09:31 Sunny_ChanceOfStorm Statements Made by Social Worker Supervisor Seem Highly Unprofessional and Borderline Inappropriate. Is it Just Me? Typical Remarks and Perfectly Appropriate for an Adoption Homestudy? Or is this Lady Blowing Anyone Else's Mind?
I have no experience with Adoption Homestudys so maybe I'm just confused as to the process and what's relevant. Someone please educate me if I'm ignorant to the process because I'm like what in the actual.....??? I've changed the names of the individuals as opposed to redacting them in order to maintain a comprehensible narrative. The couple being evaluated are my parents. The purpose of the evaluation is to determine their ability to provide foster children, including troubled and abused children, a safe, loving, and healthy environment for temporary placement as well as permanent adoption. My parents are in their 80s now. This Homestudy was written in 1986. The author, titled "Social Worker Supervisor" concluded the report with the positive recommendation my parents be approved to adopt and raise foster children. A wise choice in hindsight, considering they spent the next 40 years temporarily housing over 24 troubled and/or abused transitioning foster children and permanently adopting 7 of us, all from under the age of 2, most as infants. Raised and loved us no differently than if we were biological children. Rescued us from Literal personal hells of abuse, neglect, and misery and gave us the warmest home anyone could ask for.
Anyways, I happened across this paperwork today and I'd just like to run a few excerpts by y'all and get a little feedback if possible. So, I'm going to quote a few things verbatim as it's written in the study with the exception of personal and/or identifiable information...
"The 'Harris' family lives in a rural area and have 1 biological daughter, age 12, named 'Caroline'... The home includes an upright piano which 'Caroline' plays beautifully.... 'Caroline is a thin, gawky girl who bites her nails AND IS NO LONGER AS CUTE AS PICTURES OF HER WHEN SHE WAS YOUNGER. She was, at first, painfully shy at the prospect of opening up with a stranger..." (No small wonder there lady!)
"Susan (wife) does dress casually, wears no make-up, AND IS NOT PARTICULARLY ATTRACTIVE ACCORDING TO AMERICAN STANDARDS, BUT THOSAE ARE NOT HER STANDARDS."
"The Harris' are imperfect according to Our Ideal IMAGE of what we would want for adoptive parents, however, I have not found any prospective parents to be perfect. What they do have going for them is a tremendous ability to love and care for children, and animals, including the downtrodden and handicapped. These traits more than adequately compensate for their imperfections. I recommend their application be accepted."
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2025.01.24 09:31 Big_File6145 What: pretty privilege at its finest?
Hinding hindi talaga mawawala to sa pilipinas kahit saan meron š. Especially mostly nangyayari to sa classroom pa AAHHAHA ang unfair.
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2025.01.24 09:31 Lgs_8 Best builder?
I'm a general contractor and m looking to start a website. I've been using FB for years and it's been sufficient but I'm hoping to branch out more. I also do custom woodworking that is like to set up e-commerce for. I'm wondering if there's a good builder that could cover both of these in 1 site. Thoughts? I've only ever really known about wix but have heard a lot about square space and now have a friend using systeme... Idk where to start.
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2025.01.24 09:31 Serious-Question-706 Gathering vs crafting and future of 11.1
Hello, I am new in wow and goldmaking general and wanted to ask. Right now i have my garhering char with herb/mining . Knowledge points almost maxed out thanks to catch up system . Is it worth to sell materials in AH or it is more profitable to make alchemy / bs char and make items there ? I am little worried of a load od bots on my outland realm and theyr effect on market .
How does 11.1 change peofessions ? Will there be new recipes and gathering materials ?
Thanks Newbie goblin
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2025.01.24 09:31 jeffthemetalfan666 Chaeryeong 250123
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2025.01.24 09:31 Mental-Classic-9408 Il personal trainer in sala ci prova spudoratamente con la mia ragazza in salaā¦avendo tutto compreso fa schede di allenamento a tutti ma con lei eā particolarmente attento, lui eā un bestione di 120kg di 40 anni, io peso astento 65kg eā ne ho 18, mi sento abbastanza bullizzato da questa situazione
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2025.01.24 09:31 xRichiex1 [ps5] W: x2 rivers of blood max & x2 great stars max H: Karma
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2025.01.24 09:31 Abject_Research_9336 Looking for vr heist games like payday
I am looking for heist games like payday2, I played payday2 but its mechanics are not very good. I hope there are good alternatives.
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2025.01.24 09:31 Common-Ebb-1917 Attorney interne role with Dept of Social Services
Anybody have an idea what itās like working with this department or any department for that matter as an attorney interne?
Also, how long does recruitment take? They say it takes up to 6 weeks or more but Iām convinced it takes way longer.
Any insight could be helpful and will help with planning accordingly.
Thanks
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2025.01.24 09:31 SenseImpossible7941 Defense PhD preliminary thesis tips?
Hi classmates,
I am an international student in the EU, and I have to defend my PhD preliminary thesis in front of esteemed professors. I am feeling confused and overwhelmed, and it seems like my mind is blank! I'm not sure how to handle my anxiety. When I'm stressed, I sometimes forget my mother tongue, and I worry about what might happen if I'm anxious while defending in English.
Please help and support me during this challenging time. Thank you! :(
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2025.01.24 09:31 IJustWantPeace333 what does my fridge say about me? (tw blood,skin)
i know my fridge is small, also i used to have blood jars too but i drank it. And with the skin I just put it in jars.
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2025.01.24 09:31 StrikingExplorer4111 Accusations of not being active enough. Started by abusive parents and then repeated by therapists and other people.
Seems like Iām starting to see more clearly the connection between my past and what triggers me now.
When I think about the messages from my mother that formed my self-hatred, if I want to generalize and express them in one phrase, I can probably say they were accusations of not being active enough (lazy, cowardly, unconfident, not responsible enough, passive). Sometimes I could feel it in my bones that she literally hated me. Now I understand that those words from my mother werenāt actually about me but about her husband, my father, whom I was so unlucky to resemble in appearance and with whom she had her own issues, especially after he stopped living with us. She was simply venting her anger at him on me. But back then, during my teenage years, at some point, I developed a feeling that something was wrong with me ā I was pathologically weak. This is a significant, if not the main, cause of my complex psychiatric disorder with numerous symptoms.
Unfortunately, I heard similar messages ā essentially accusations of not being active enough ā many times later from psychologists and psychotherapists, both directed at me personally and in the form of general advice for people with mental disorders. Iām very sensitive, for example, to reminders that I can be active and influence my life. I donāt need those reminders. I grew up on Terminator 2 with its motto "there is no fate but what we make for ourselves". I ruined my health by regularly pushing myself to the point of complete mental and physical exhaustion so that no one would accuse me of being weak, insufficiently active, or unwilling to change my life.
One therapist caused me severe retraumatization, from which I still, 13 years later, havenāt fully recovered. He constantly said things that sounded like accusations of not being active enough. For example, when heād say things like "responsibility for your life." I felt awful, my anxiety increased, and my symptoms worsened. At the time, I didnāt fully understand what the problem was, but I tried, how I could, to explain to him that I felt bad because of those words. At first, he agreed that this wasnāt what I needed, but at the very next session, he started saying the same things again.
Now that I understand my issues better, I can explain more clearly what exactly was wrong with the messages I received from him. I didnāt need advice to be more active or more responsible. What I needed was the opposite ā turn off the gas and go to sleep. Donāt check it a thousand times in fear that someone might get poisoned because of you or that the house will explode. Relax and stop feeling so responsible. For someone with an overdeveloped sense of responsibility, advice like "take responsibility for your life" can be very painful.
It's very disappointing to see so many psychologists assuming by default that the problems of people with mental disorders are because of insufficient effort. Constantly, I see many psychologists who, in their videos and articles, on forums and chats, in various ways, directly and indirectly, in person and in general, reproach people with psychological problems for not being active enough. A large number of psychologists, for some reason, believe that people with mental health issues don't understand that they can influence their own lives, that something depends on them, that they need to be active, etc. For some reason, they think by default that the problem of a person with a mental disorder is necessarily related to being too passive, so they are quick to remind them that they need to be active ("to take responsibility for their life", "to get out of the victim mentality" and so on).
It seems like some people find this helpful, but the thing is that many others are triggered by these words because they are receiving the same traumatic accusations they got in childhood. This is especially true for the male gender because shaming men for not being active enough is deeply ingrained in our culture.
Itās quite hard to stand against such things because such views are very widespread among people in general. Our culture has a deep-rooted cult of success, activity, achievements, and strength. When people see someone with mental health issues, weak or helpless, their first assumption is often that he/she is not trying hard enough, not active enough, doesnāt want to "take responsibility for their life", is in the "victim position" etc. It seems to be so hard for many people to understand that the problem could be, and often is, the opposite. Those suffering from mental disorders often donāt need to be reproached for not being active enough ā they need to be listened to and feel supported in a safe space. They often need to learn to relax, rest, be spontaneous, and act out of enthusiasm, not self-coercion. They need to learn not to blame themselves and not to hate themselves for their failures, flaws, or weaknesses. Often, they need to learn to overcome perfectionism, the desire to control everything in their lives, or the guilt for resting or relaxing. For many people with mental disorders, the problem is not insufficient, but excessive activeness (workaholism, exhausting obsessive states, fear of losing control, excessive responsibility and thoroughness ā these are common neurotic symptoms), or itās about setting themselves excessively high goals and hating themselves for not achieving them. Receiving accusations for not being active enough can be very painful for such people.
When ordinary people donāt understand this, itās sad, but psychologists should understand these basic things and try to avoid saying something that sounds like a typical reproach from a demanding parent. Not to echo typical messages that neurotic individuals were exposed to in childhood. Yet, strangely, this is exactly what many of them do in abundance, which leaves a very depressive impression.
I think the root of the problem lies in the universal desire for people to feel control. The feeling of losing control is one of the main signs of a traumatic situation, and it can be very painful. People want to feel more control and often consciously and unconsciously try to convince themselves and others that they and people in general have or can have control. The problem is that these constant calls to be active, to influence, to control, etc., help some people (those who feel they don't have enough control), but harm others (those who try to control excessively). If your trauma was formed from childhood reproaches about not being active enough, you will constantly feel external pressure. You will constantly receive similar messages from others calling for activity or reproaching you for being too passive. To resist this pressure, you need to build a particularly strong mental armor.
It seems like now I need to start building such armor so that I don't get triggered every time. But it won't be easy, as I still have some doubts that maybe they are right, and I really am not active or responsible enough, not putting in enough effort, etc.
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2025.01.24 09:31 bubbzy907 Problem With Mega?
Hey, I'm not sure if I am just dumb or can you not Mega during battle? I was trying to do a little moxie sweep with Hera and I had to settle with regular or mega as I couldn't find a way to mega mid battle. If there is a way someone let me know, or dev is there any news about being able to do so in the near future?
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2025.01.24 09:31 TomatoCommercial6755 What is the difference between business analyst and a business analysis
Hi guys I'm pretty new to this,and look forward to start a career in this field
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2025.01.24 09:31 EnvironmentShoddy506 PE Umbreon, 9 or 10?
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2025.01.24 09:31 vaderu33 25 [M4A] Bi curious in Poland. Looking for other hung bi curious people within Europe since I'll be travelling. My messages are open :)
Hello everyone! For quite a while now, l've wanted to try experimenting and finally find out if I would like something like this or not. I would prefer to experiment with someone that's new to this as well so that it makes it more fair for the both of us. As for me, l'm blonde, 185cm, skinny.. I can add more details once we chat. I'm looking for someone that's hung and on the dominant side since l think I would consider myself more sub when it comes to guys. I'm planning on travelling to Italy in the nearest future but like I said, my conversations are open to anyone from within Europe. If you're outside of Europe, then just ignore this message in its entirety. Looking forward to chat :)
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2025.01.24 09:31 Key-Simple9742 Pain of earning higher than your manā¦
We've been married for over 15 years in an arranged marriage. Iām more serious and focused, while my husband is more laid-back and carefree. When we got married, we both started our careers. I worked hard to advance in my job and increase my income, but he was content where he was and didnāt seek promotions, so he now earns about half of what I do.
Weāve bought two houses together, with me contributing 80% of the down payments and him only 20%. Because of his choices, we ended up in homes that donāt match my preferences. He often influences my decisions, even ignoring what Iāve clearly said I want. We have two kids, and we have very different parenting styles. He frequently interferes with my plans for them but doesnāt have a clear idea of his own approach. I take care of all the arrangements for their extra classes and vacations, and I pay for them too. I even took a job that lets me be home early for the kids, while he didnāt take paternity leave when our second child was born.
Right now, we share household chores and finances evenly. However, after we bought our second house, he is making the decisions that does not align with my vision, but I am still paying for it. So I thought I should be saving some of my earning for the things I want to do. When I expressed my desire to save some of my extra income for personal goals, it upset him. He believes that since weāre married, all my money should go toward the family, making it feel like my earnings are his. This feels very unfair. People often say that couples shouldnāt keep track of who earns what, but as a woman, itās a lot to handle. I manage being the primary caregiver, plan family activities, deal with work stress, handle household chores, and take on a big financial burdenāall while my husband gets praised for simply cooking and cleaning, which society often sees as heroic.
Iāve worked tirelessly over the years, yet I feel like nothing is going as I envisioned. The kids arenāt growing up the way I hoped, and the houses weāve chosen arenāt what I wanted. I often feel unheard and unappreciated for all I do. It seems like my husband takes me for granted. Even my mom praises him for his contributions at home, reinforcing the idea that heās a great husband just for doing basic tasks. People often overlook the planning and effort it takes to run a family and raise kids, as there are many responsibilities beyond cooking and cleaning.
I feel disheartened. I need a supportive family environment to be happy, but I struggle to instill the values I want in my children because of my husbandās constant interference. It feels like he sees me mainly as a source of income and doesnāt truly value my thoughts. I would really appreciate any suggestions on how to cope with these feelings.
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2025.01.24 09:31 izmansi How do I fix this edge coming lose on the tail? It looks like the wood is getting water damage
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2025.01.24 09:31 Lagertha_xX I need some laptop recommendations
Hello, so I had Acer Predator Helios 300 for the past 4 years and suddenly it broke down. I have a budget to build a good gaming pc, but I still do need a laptop for my studies/programming etc, so I need to postpone the pc build and buy a laptop. Now, I have a few requirements, so I would love some recommendations (assuming that what I need is even possible itp get in one machine) I study IT, so I would love the laptop to be light and slim so itās good to do some programming while also light enough to take it to uni. However since I have to postpone my pc build and gaming is a big part of my life I would love to be able to do some gaming on it as well. Would love it to run games like Stardew, Dbd valorant. Anyone has any recommendations? I was looking at some Lenovo light laptops, but I am unsure if the integrated gpu is enough for me to be able to play some games at all
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2025.01.24 09:31 Realman_si IBKR provizija nakupa, ne razumem.
Imam vpraÅ”anje glede provizije na ibkrju pri nakupu evropskih delnic. Delnice kupujem v eurih. Na poroÄilu mi kaže recimo provizija 1.79 eur za nakup 30 delnic. Vendar v realnosti , mi odbijejo nekje 8 eurov. RaÄun je nastavljen na tiered, kupujem preko limit order.
Neki denarja imam sedaj na voljo v cfd? Vendar, Äe vse seÅ”tejem, je Å”e vedno provizija cca. 8 eurov za vsak posamezen nakup plus to v cfd, v statements, mi pa kaže samo teh 1.79 eur.
A mi lahko kdo razloži, kako ta provizija deluje?
Za vse pametne odgovore se vsem vnaprej zahvaljujem.
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