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2024.11.30 02:41 zertz7 What was the latest podcast you listened to?

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2024.11.30 02:41 NotHaolmi I love my job- all except for one supervisor, and she is truly the worst person I have ever worked for. She verbally accosted me and I need advice on where to go from here.

I work for CPS in my state, and I’ve shared frustrations before about the overwhelming demands and toxic workplace dynamics. Recently, however, things have escalated to the point where I feel I am being harassed by an indirect supervisor—the foster care (FC) supervisor. For context, I’ve been with CPS for four years, and she’s been there for seven. I am an LMSW and three months away from testing for my LICSW, while she just graduated with her MSW this past July.
To be blunt, the FC supervisor has fostered an extremely toxic environment throughout her tenure. When I first started at CPS, I was in her unit, but her treatment drove me to request a transfer after just seven months. Since moving to investigations, I’ve thrived. Despite no longer being under her supervision, she has continued to be passive-aggressive toward me, and this behavior has only intensified since my husband started working at CPS.
My husband was hired over a year and a half ago at the recommendation of our former director. She knew he was leaving law enforcement and encouraged him to apply. We’ve worked well together ever since, maintaining professional boundaries and treating each other like coworkers during work hours. However, the FC supervisor’s behavior has worsened dramatically since he joined, becoming more hostile and overtly targeting both of us.
For example, she has advocated for her workers to avoid on-call duties, citing mental health concerns, while openly sharing their personal health information—an apparent violation of privacy laws. Yet, when I requested to temporarily step back from on-call duties just days after being discharged from the ICU following a near-death experience, she accused me and my husband of expecting “special treatment.” This accusation came during a meeting where she berated us in front of the new director and our supervisor.
To add context, my husband and I have consistently stepped up to cover on-call shifts, including during emergencies. Over the past year, we’ve covered for two employees who suffered strokes, even during times that were personally challenging for us. I was 34 weeks pregnant during one of those periods, yet I still worked on-call shifts. I also took on-call the week before I gave birth and the week I returned from maternity leave. Despite this, the FC supervisor continues to accuse us of not contributing, while her own unit rarely steps up to help with coverage.
The most recent incident occurred last Wednesday, the day before Thanksgiving. The FC supervisor emailed me, my husband, and another investigator, requesting that we transport a foster child two hours away. She gave only three hours’ notice despite knowing about the transport for two days. Her unit had workers available, but she insisted that we handle it. She also stated that if no one volunteered by 3:00 PM, we would be “voluntold.”
We had already explained that we couldn’t assist due to existing obligations and saw no reason to reiterate ourselves. At 2:30 PM, the third investigator—a new worker who is still on probation—came into my office in tears. The FC supervisor had pressured her, saying that if my husband and I didn’t do it, she would have to, even though she had urgent first-contact victims to see that day. These contacts were on a strict five-day deadline and couldn’t be delayed due to the holiday.
Shortly after, the FC supervisor came into our hallway, furious that we hadn’t replied to her email. When I tried to explain our position, she immediately began yelling over me. I calmly told her that this behavior is why people avoid talking to her—because she bulldozes and silences them. Her response was to lash out, claiming, “No one in my unit likes you anyway. All you do is talk about people. You think they’re your friends? They talk about you all the time. You can’t trust them.”
These accusations were baseless and meant to hurt. I make it a point to remain neutral, even when members of her unit come to me upset about her treatment of them. While I’ve vented about the job (as most people do), I’ve never personally attacked anyone. Her comments were unprofessional and crossed a line.
She also accused us of “never helping her unit” and claimed that we were “sitting around doing nothing” while working on documentation in the office. This is demonstrably false. Over the past three months alone, someone from investigations has stepped in to help her unit after hours more than 30 times. This doesn’t include times when my husband has de-escalated hostile clients, taken cases to protect her workers, or covered her unit’s on-call shifts.
During the heated exchange, I did respond with some unkind words once she began making personal attacks. My comments were harsh, but they were rooted in truth—I bluntly told her that her behavior is a problem for everyone in the office and that many people feel mistreated by her. While my delivery may not have been ideal, I stand by the message. I fully intend to take responsibility for my words and acknowledge that I could have communicated my frustrations more professionally. However, I will not apologize, as I believe it’s important to hold her accountable for the way her actions impact others. My goal moving forward is to address these issues constructively and ensure that this behavior is no longer tolerated.
Her behavior is part of a long-standing pattern. Two years ago, she verbally accosted a coworker of mine, and when I defended him, she turned her anger toward me. At the time, I backed down, but I’ve grown since then and will no longer tolerate her bullying.
Her actions go beyond unprofessionalism and into unethical territory. She has inserted herself into cases involving personal connections, blocked relative placements out of personal bias, and even harassed a foster child. In one incident, she got into a teenager’s face, attempting to force the child to smile. When the child set boundaries and threatened to hit her if she didn’t back off, the FC supervisor continued to escalate the situation. Afterward, she said she “wished” the child had hit her so they could just be sent to a facility and her unit would no longer have to find a placement.
Additionally, during the moments when she decides that she does, in fact, like me, she spends a lot of time in my office venting about how her workers don’t do anything and she has to do their jobs for them. when she returned from educational leave, I made the comment to her that one of her workers had done a really good job stepping up and keeping the unit together in her absence. She rolled her eyes and stated, “Yeah, but she didn’t bother doing her own work.”
A meeting has been scheduled for Monday to address this most recent issue. I fully expect her to manipulate the situation, as she has in the past. I also expect little support from my supervisor, who often remains passive, or from our new director, who avoids conflict. However, I’m done letting her behavior go unchecked.
I know my tendency to get emotional when I’m angry, and I want to ensure I present myself professionally while standing firm. I plan to bring documentation of all the ways investigations has supported her unit to counter her false claims, but I also want to make it clear what my next steps will be if this behavior continues.
How can I effectively communicate my concerns and advocate for myself without letting my emotions take over? I love my job and the work I do, but this toxic environment is becoming unbearable, and I refuse to let her continue harassing me or my coworkers unchecked.
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2024.11.30 02:41 Ancient_Position8057 Moving and Changing my Name

I live in Chicago. I just got married this month. In April my wife and I will be moving to Minnesota for just over a year so I can complete an externship for my Doctorate degree. We are planning on moving back as soon as I am done. I am planning on changing my name but I don't want to change my IDs as few times as possible?
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2024.11.30 02:40 imagineDoll "I couldn't imagine living as if every ad or product must cater to my needs and interests only."

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2024.11.30 02:40 Metsunami I Will Never Be a Memory (Sephiroth DK Mog)

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2024.11.30 02:40 Trom22 Lender fees but then credited

As the title says I’ve worked with a lender a couple of times who charges a lender fee but always commits to having it credited at closing. What’s behind this and how do they profit off it? More importantly is it costing me somehow?
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2024.11.30 02:40 kevinjamesfan66 Did anyone ever find Smaack?

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2024.11.30 02:40 Raigarak Who are the top heroes that can summon units to fight for you?

I love playing summoners like Torb in Overwatch. Anyone got a full list and the viable ones.
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2024.11.30 02:40 Exact-Seaweed3288 When was a time where you read someone's eyes and immediately knew their intentions were not right ?

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2024.11.30 02:40 Rusty_Shacklef91 Best Ways to use 3d models to not look all blobby or stiff

Anyone have tips to use 3d models? When I use them, they just look stiff, and blobby. Also I wanna have slicker vector look like Gennedy Tartavosky, Craig McCracken, Rob Renzetti, Bruce Timm, Stephen Silver, Lauren Faust, VizziePop,
Mix 2000s Cartoon Network thicklines with a hint of anime, I should use 3d models more abstract, I sometimes simplify the muscles, but I feel like Im missing something. I wanna them to feel vibrate, more cartoony and stretchy?
Like maybe I shouldNT direct trace?
Im actually ok with a Vector mouse tool, Im a mediocre drawer with weak hands, I like slick bold confident lines
I don't know what Im doing wrong.
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2024.11.30 02:40 FRAN0_2077 Most masculine filipino boy ✨🖤

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2024.11.30 02:40 mjgonsow Tesla Referral Code for $2000 off

Please use the link below to save 2000 on your new tesla. Thank You!
https://www.tesla.com/referral/mark41426
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2024.11.30 02:40 Bumble_Leee 3x3 door without a tutorial

So I wanted to see if I could make a 3x3 door without looking up how to do it, sufficed to say it was harder than I thought. It does open just don’t ask me how long it takes to…
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2024.11.30 02:40 Teeter01000 H: Transfer W: Courier

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2024.11.30 02:40 boredohreo [FOR HIRE] PROMO: FREE CUSTOM CHIBIS FOR THOSE WHO WILL COMMISSION ME~

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2024.11.30 02:40 Thegreatesshitter420 Have you ever been bullied? (fixed)

No results option bc polls are anonymous, just give an answer
View Poll
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2024.11.30 02:40 Mean-Government-2381 [AoL] Impa's mystery what is he hiding

[AoL] Impa's mystery what is he hiding What's your thoughts on this strange necklace that Impa's carrying, could it be the missing Sheika artifact?
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2024.11.30 02:40 AlarmingRide5950 I have to share because it’s a big accomplishment for me

For the last 5 weeks, I’ve been in a tech kind of - bootcamp? - I don’t know what to call it. It’s called Academy and it’s from Starter Story.
Anyways, it was an AI business workshop and we were tasked with identifying many problems, then finding solutions, then coming up with a business, building a landing page, getting our idea “roasted” by the community, doing user interviews, etc.
Lots of this stuff I haven’t ever done.
But today was the last day of the Academy AND I WAS #1 ON THE LEADERBOARD! I DID IT! 🥹
Lots of people were disqualified for missing days. By the end, I was the last woman still in.
And I have been managing my mom’s care (Alzheimer’s), launching a dementia research podcast, and running a full-time manufacturing business with 5 employees. And potty training a dog. :)
This is my first post and I see a lot of discouraged posts from women in tech. I used to do contract work for Mozilla and so I was heavily in tech culture. It is a very unequal environment but I was fortunate to have some very good mentors and friends.
I really always saw myself as a woman in tech, even though I’ve been in manufacturing for more than a decade at this point. This class was a big step for me, but I’m proud.
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2024.11.30 02:40 Significant_Fish_264 Need gifts for new friends 732766525578

I need gifts to get 7k eggs
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2024.11.30 02:40 Jflow510 Is it possible to get twists with straight hair

If so , how long should your hair be to get started ?? TYIA.
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2024.11.30 02:40 RocketMaid Try being other gender?

So I’ve been thinking about my gender lately I think I might want to be a women. The thing is, I have no idea how to test this. What are some ways I can do this?
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2024.11.30 02:40 xianomi Looking for animes with MASCULINE MCs.

MCs that doesn't take shit from anybody.
Any genre is fine but even better if they are running around stealing everybody's girl.
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2024.11.30 02:40 novembernovella [HELP] how long do we have to reply to reviews?

Got my first negative review today after a 2yr 5-star streak & am considering my reply very carefully. Can’t find any info online or here about how long we have before Fiverr shuts down the interaction—does anyone here know?
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2024.11.30 02:40 DEM97_ I gave each of my Space Wolves a different color pauldron + chapter icon color. Is this heresy or is it ok?

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2024.11.30 02:40 Few-Association2713 Orange Canvas Apron

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