Proud of myself. Finally let go for good.
2025.01.26 07:52 IllustriousAnchovy Proud of myself. Finally let go for good.
A year ago today marks the beginning of the end for my best friend of four years and I. The person I thought of as a sister. One day we were laughing it up on a call per usual, and the next radio silence. After weeks of radio silence I even reached out to her mom and husband with concerns for her mental health. They assured everything was fine, but were also confused about the silence towards me. I tried reaching out and asking if I had offended her, no word back. A mutual friend caught on and contacted her and got a same day reply apologizing for the silence. I was gutted. I sent her a heartfelt message about the pain this whole thing caused me and how I had hoped I had been a good enough friend to her that she knew she could rely on me for help if she needed it- at least give me the decency of honesty. I loved her and wished her the best, but told her I was leaving the friendship in her hands and that this behavior was not okay.
We saw each other at an awkward mutual gathering and she approached me with a deep hug, said she missed me, and asked not to talk about it there. Her husband noticed something was wrong between us and kept goading convo starters. I didn’t talk much at all, it was painfully obvious something wasn’t right. I left early without saying goodbye. I bawled my eyes out daily for months mourning the friendship. I stopped texting but sent a card in the mail with some encouraging words.
At the end of summer I sent a birthday invite for my young child, since our kids played together for a couple years. They didn’t rsvp but showed up last minute. I was glad until her husband commented about how he had to drag her there. She kept trying to tell him she didn’t have time to come today even though she had the day off and no plans. He didn’t see the pained look on my face, but I made myself scarce the rest of the time and tended to my other guests that actually cared to be there.
They invited us over a couple months later for family dinner. I contemplated for a week about going or not, but ultimately felt it was hypocritical to expect her to put effort in just to reject it. It was casual, but cold. At one point her husband mentioned something and was shocked we didn’t know. He shot her a look and she nervously laughed it off and said she was rubbish about keeping in touch because of the family drama. We left shortly after. I secretly hoped maybe we could rebuild, but after a couple weeks she sent me a text bitching about work drama-like we used to do- I told her I was sorry work was tough and wished it would get better soon for her. I wasn’t feeling it. It had been nearly 9 months since this all began and she had yet to speak a word to me about the silence between us. I couldn’t move on with rebuilding without discussing what had happened and why. SOME kind of earnest acknowledgment and accountability would have sufficed, for gods sake.
When I announced a nearly due pregnancy she had no clue about, she privately messaged me congratulations and started talking about how they were going to try in the coming years. I replied shortly “thanks, good luck.”
It’s been silence as usual, and the longer time drums on the more clear headed I’ve become. I decided during the summer to match people’s efforts in friendship. I have invested more time and intention into other people and broadened my circle significantly. I don’t rely on any one friend to check all my emotional need boxes. I have stopped taking soft rejections personally (like unable to make plans, not responding to texts in the same day/week etc.) I have been more direct with my expectations- no more leaving my needs as open ended suggestions (example: “Want to go to dinner? I need to know by noon today.” Vs “want to grab dinner tonight?” And then sitting around all day holding off on my own plans waiting for a reply!) It’s been wonderful for my mental health, as well I believe for the health of my friendships.
Tonight I made the choice -on the year anniversary- to lay my best friend’s memory to rest. In my heart I still love the friend I lost. I mourned her for a solid year. I gave way more of myself than I should have. One day my friend just died and her body kept living on without her. Somebody else moved in. I’ll never know why, and now I’ve accepted that I’m not owed an answer. And that’s okay. I have let go of the last bit of her- I have unfriended her on social media and have let go of contact with her family (they added me but we don’t speak).
I thought it would hurt, but it doesn’t. I wanted to share this because my heart goes out to anybody else out there suffering the same pain. It’s hard to mourn the death of something still alive. Time does eventually heal this wound, but you also have to be intentional in the steps you take to heal yourself, too. Take up that yoke and put in the hard work to move on. Better yourself. Be proud of what you can accomplish and be proud of finally letting go. I am so proud of myself for the first time in a long time. I’m not just doing this for me, I am also setting an example for my kids about how we won’t allow people to treat us- especially people that claim to care about us!
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2025.01.26 07:52 stagenme Rayna S5 spoiler
WHY DOES NO ONE TALK ABOUT RAYNAS DEATH?! Just watched for the first time today and man.. I was not prepared for that. The episodes after that?! Brutal. I’m heart broken 😭😭😭😭 like whyyyyy did they have to kill her off ughh
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2025.01.26 07:52 Fit-Translator-1713 Has anyone else had extreme weight loss within the span of 6-12 months without trying due to hypothyroidism?
With hypothyroidism, it’s usually the opposite and it can cause extreme weight gain not loss but in my case I lost over 25 pounds within 6-7 months without trying. I am a young female.
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2025.01.26 07:52 freddy23090 Best headset microphone for Xbox series S/X?
I'm looking at buying the Razer Blackshark V2 Pro for Xbox just due to it being the best headset microphone I've heard so far for Xbox but i was curious if anyone else can recommend a headset with a better microphone for Xbox series S/X
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2025.01.26 07:52 WileyWiggins This post is f*cked! Lastly, a bad player that we hate.
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2025.01.26 07:52 FishingAdorable6338 Bhattttt 😡🤬🤬
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2025.01.26 07:52 Unlikely_War6450 A question
Im hard stuck in emerald 2 this season so far and have been really struggling to climb and I admit I make some really bad decisions in games and I understand Im not that good but has anyone else been having a hard time climbing. Some of my friends climbed to d3 super easily idk why Im struggling so much.
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2025.01.26 07:52 Xom0332 Tiling the Plane Be Like:
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2025.01.26 07:52 Otherwise_Lynx_7883 A Korean Tender Romantic Video
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2025.01.26 07:52 donutloop Renewable energies: 100 gigawatts of photovoltaics installed in Germany
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2025.01.26 07:52 Ominous_Pessimist_ Naa pa moy hope sa upcoming elections?
Akoa kay murag 60-40 na 40% nlng ang hope, kay although daghan kaykog makitan dri sa reddit nga kabao na mu likay atong kinsay pa flower2 lng sa politics, makaguol lng gihapon nga maskin magtanaw ka nga daghan ang mu botar ug tarong somehow mu end up gihapon mu daog tong mga buwaya.
Makaguol nmn lng jd ba nga grabe sa ka pila na katuig nilag inantos anang mga same people nga corrupt with oending cases pa mao ra gihapon ang botaran, gi unsa kaha na sila pag lumay.
Makaguol lng jd kapoyan nlng ko maghuna2, tas mao pay kusog kaayo mangreklamo.
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2025.01.26 07:52 Sophie_hughess Men: Do you pat with toilet paper after urinating?
I started doing this about a year ago, and it’s made me feel so much cleaner throughout the day. Around the same time, I also started using Lume on my private area, and now there’s zero smell whatsoever.
If there’s no toilet paper available, I’ll sometimes dab on the outside of my jeans in a pinch. I actually picked up this habit during my deployment to Afghanistan—men there would do this, and it just made sense. I mean, even a tiny bit of urine can break down and cause an unpleasant smell. Looking back, it should have been obvious since I’ve always known women do this.
So, am I the only one who does this, or is it something other guys do but just don’t talk about?
Edit: A lot of you seem hung up on the “dabbing on jeans” part. To clarify, it’s a tiny drop—mostly water—that dries almost immediately, and I wash/change pants regularly. This only happens when nothing else is available. Frankly, it’s better than letting pee sit on my skin, getting gross in my underwear where it’s warm, sometimes sweaty, and there’s no air circulation. It’s not ideal, but it’s the better option.
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2025.01.26 07:52 NeverPedestrian60 More irony
https://www.hellomagazine.com/royalty/809670/prince-william-kate-middleton-personal-message-weekend-plans-revealed/?viewas=amp
Another schmaltz piece from Hello mag. In it William talks about the solace he found at the Craithie church service in Balmoral the day Diana died.
Which is strange as she didn’t get so much as a mention. The minister told a funny story and they prayed for others. One of the reasons Harry wasn’t sure his mum had actually gone.
They sure like to posture in their kilts just as they dress up in uniforms they have no right to wear decked out with medals they haven’t earned.
The truth is that in their appearances in Scotland the largest number are the not my king group.
St Andrews which Kate swapped to in order to meet him. They may have aged since then but neither have evolved. Into the dynamic force for good that two 40 year olds in their position could be.
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2025.01.26 07:52 Background-Past-7900 Dynamic changes
Is it true that the game just keeps adapting to try and become harder and encourage you to spend money. I used to have no energy and have to watch the ads. Following on from the advice here I have managed to grind and build up rubys and energy. It’s clear though that we are not playing a level playing field. Everyone’s targets seem to be set for them and not universal. Different people need different things to complete tasks and challenges. Is it the same with the islands? Does everyone need the same items to craft something at the same cost? Or does it all depend on what level and how much you have in the bank?
This set of islands has cost me 200k energy so far and I’ve just started the last island of the 4th set. It’s the first time I’ve ever got up to 200k and seems a coincidence that this set requires over that!
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2025.01.26 07:52 Bird_Mess I doubt black bean is supposed to do that [Ignore the audio]
![I doubt black bean is supposed to do that [Ignore the audio]](https://external-preview.redd.it/ZnRqODMwaGJuYWZlMfYyRwsMFdjq_AkDoFna4aEbhFGdEwPwrAqrE6FJb5JH.png?width=640&crop=smart&auto=webp&s=f819748c06d07f88b8e8542088e7705e8a7b9b1d "I doubt black bean is supposed to do that [Ignore the audio]") | submitted by Bird_Mess to thebindingofisaac [link] [comments] |
2025.01.26 07:52 viceventure NFT instant offer up 12.5% just bought 4 hours ago. DON’T forget how much NFT’s rallied in 2021!
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2025.01.26 07:52 AdhesivenessDue8633 Stem Splitter Crashing?
I’m currently using the Trial version of Logic on my MacBook Air M1 chip on OS Seqouia, which is up to date. So far everything has been smooth sailing until one day, randomly, when attempting to use the stem splitter, the entire application crashed immediately. Now, every time I attempt to use the stem splitter it immediately crashes. HELP? I even tried opening in Rosetta mode to no avail.
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2025.01.26 07:52 Select_Ad_7682 Anyone else?
Who else only gets the speed champions they like? Or does everyone buys all of them? I have a nice display, but am very selective. An example: I have the Mclaren Solus, from the double pack, but not on display as I don’t like the design. Purely got it for the F1. I will not buy the Nascar Camaro for instance, etc. Anyone else? And what don’t you like/buy?
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2025.01.26 07:52 Flashy-Shower-5746 LC?
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2025.01.26 07:52 FKF_Aurgnet220 Jump 2 beacon c2 - Null/c5 statics. Recruiting people now.
JUMP 2 BEACON [J2B]
We're currently residing inside a c2 with nullsec and class 5 wormhole statics which means content isn't too far away for pvp.
Our requirements are as follows
Have two omega characters that are combat capable and have at least 40m SP Can fly some of our doctrines and willing to buy them and have them too hand when combat happens Being on comms and active is always handy when existing in this space game :) A dreadnaught character is a good alternative to have but not an active requirement atm. We do a wide range of activities in all aspects of pvp, Whether it be mercenary work or black ops jump clone staging area's or even flying nano gang or mid scale combat.... You will 100% have stuff to do with us.
Also pve/money making is down too the individual.....People in corp will be super helpful and even do stuff together to crab....But this is not our main content.
A link too our https://zkillboard.com/corporation/98660292/ Killboard, So you can laugh at the silly losses and get info on some of the things we do. Join our discord https://discord.gg/hFH3ceNcws today and enquire.
Points of content are any people with the command/HR tag Quick responses will come from as follows.
''FKF aurgnet'' ''Zilkaconnel deadly'' ''Dcole''
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2025.01.26 07:52 lrknst My first solo suck bowl!
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2025.01.26 07:52 TheOrangeOwl3426 20M Scotland/Online - looking to make new friends
Hey!
How are you?
I Live in a small town in Scotland! I would describe myself in three words as happy, carefree and ambitious! I'm quite tall! (6'4) and I am looking to meet new people and expand on my social circle! I don't mind if it's long term or short term as I believe anyone can use someone to speak to regardless of situations! I am a open book so I don't mind what we speak about
I have a few hobbies;
Video games 🎮 Sports ⚽️ Driving 🚗 Cooking 🍳 Socialising 🗣 And much more! Please ask and I can go into more detail!
Anyone can message me u have no preferences for age or gender I just ask you be respectful!
I look forward to speaking!
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2025.01.26 07:52 tell-me-secretss 39 M - my girl is at work
Let’s chat. All topics of conversation are open for discussion
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2025.01.26 07:52 Al2Torr3 La Casa Blanca pide que se permita a las tropas israelíes permanecer en Líbano más allá de la fecha de expiración del alto el fuego la próxima semana, dando a Israel más tiempo para completar su misión pero aumentando los riesgos de que la tregua se deshaga por completo.
Un portavoz de la Casa Blanca dijo que la prórroga del alto el fuego era necesaria para apoyar al nuevo presidente de Líbano y garantizar el regreso de los israelíes que habían huido del norte del país mientras sus militares luchaban contra la milicia libanesa Hezbolá, un grupo terrorista designado por Estados Unidos.
«Todas las partes comparten el objetivo de garantizar que Hezbolá no tenga capacidad para amenazar al pueblo libanés o a sus vecinos. Para lograr estos objetivos, se necesita urgentemente una breve prórroga temporal del alto el fuego», declaró Brian Hughes, portavoz del Consejo de Seguridad Nacional de la Casa Blanca.
https://www.wsj.com/world/middle-east/israel-lebanon-ceasefire-white-house-response-e5fa3637
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2025.01.26 07:52 nofoodonthisone How to sushi rice
I love sushi rice, but I feel like I can’t quite nail it the way that it’s made in restaurants. Mine has a stronger vinegar taste and is never as fluffy, maybe a bit too moist? I want to learn, please teach me how!
Right now if I’m cooking two cups sushi rice I use 1/2 cup vinegar, 1/4 cup sugar, 1/4 tsp salt and 1tbs butter.
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